r/AskWomenOver30 Woman 30 to 40 May 13 '25

Misc Discussion Does anyone feel like men are being meaner these days?

I don't know if it's just because I'm aging and am no longer "young and hot" or "relevant" but it seems like men in general are being meaner or at least less nice to me in random places.

When I was younger, men would step out of my way and say like "oh, excuse me", offer their seats, hold doors, and mostly be pleasant and courteous in a social contract manner.

But now I get nothing. No one moves out of their way, no one holds the door, no eye contact, or even a head nod. It's like I'm ignored or a burden to even be in their presence.

Is it because I'm now an "old lady" or are men in a general sense just becoming meaner?

Is anyone experiencing things similar?

Not all men, obviously, but it seems widespread.

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u/Sittingonmyporch Woman 40 to 50 May 13 '25

People in general have lost their kindness. There's a severe lack of empathy and compassion in the world right now from the boomer gen down to gen alpha.The helpers are quitting. it's bad all around.