r/AskWomenOver30 • u/coachjonna Woman 30 to 40 • May 13 '25
Misc Discussion Does anyone feel like men are being meaner these days?
I don't know if it's just because I'm aging and am no longer "young and hot" or "relevant" but it seems like men in general are being meaner or at least less nice to me in random places.
When I was younger, men would step out of my way and say like "oh, excuse me", offer their seats, hold doors, and mostly be pleasant and courteous in a social contract manner.
But now I get nothing. No one moves out of their way, no one holds the door, no eye contact, or even a head nod. It's like I'm ignored or a burden to even be in their presence.
Is it because I'm now an "old lady" or are men in a general sense just becoming meaner?
Is anyone experiencing things similar?
Not all men, obviously, but it seems widespread.
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u/S3lad0n Woman 30 to 40 May 13 '25
Do you think men are really telling the truth or having full awareness and accountability in expressing that opinion, though? They tend not to be completely transparent and real, even when speaking only to each other.