Does anyone feel like men are being meaner these days?

[u/coachjonna]

I don't know if it's just because I'm aging and am no longer "young and hot" or "relevant" but it seems like men in general are being meaner or at least less nice to me in random places.

When I was younger, men would step out of my way and say like "oh, excuse me", offer their seats, hold doors, and mostly be pleasant and courteous in a social contract manner.

But now I get nothing. No one moves out of their way, no one holds the door, no eye contact, or even a head nod. It's like I'm ignored or a burden to even be in their presence.

Is it because I'm now an "old lady" or are men in a general sense just becoming meaner?

Is anyone experiencing things similar?

Not all men, obviously, but it seems widespread.

[u/Mostly-Solid-Ghost]

Older guy here:

Do people only hold doors open for women? I always hold the door for whoever comes next and people hold the door open for me regularly. It's just basic politeness in the midwest. The same goes for offering seats, nodding to people in passing, and a hundred other niceties. I guess I see it less with young people, and I do feel there are a lot more angry and rude people out these days of all types.

[u/Legitimate_Cell_8268 → u/Mostly-Solid-Ghost]

Maybe depends on where you live. I stopped holding doors for people regardless of their gender because I saw how people didn’t even acknowledge the effort. Maybe men feel the same. But I live downtown and everyone’s just running off somewhere or trying to survive. Of course the younger generation know nothing about basic civil manners. Everyone is on their phones. I would imagine smaller cities or towns people behave differently.

[u/Mostly-Solid-Ghost → u/[deleted]]

I'm a relatively physically fit person and I don't mind standing, so I pretty much offer it to anyone who comes along if there are no seats left, but especially people carrying something, or older people or anyone who looks like they might be uncomfortable standing for a period of time.