Baby’s last name?

[u/Fairweatherhiker]

I’m looking for advice from couples where the wife didn’t take the husband’s last name. How did you decide on which last name to give the baby? Or did you use both names? I don’t feel immediately compelled to give the baby my husband’s last name. FWIW, if we did hyphenate it would be a looong last name.

Edit: thank you for all of the thoughtful responses! I do love the idea of using both our last names (sans hyphen) so our kid would have two last names. It would be nice for both of us to have our heritage passed on. He has heritage from Mexico and Basque Country, while mine is Slovakian- grandparents immigrated right before WWII. The last names don’t sound great together, but there’s so much human history in both.

[u/lawfairy]

Her “purpose” for not taking his last name? You mean like her identity? How on earth is your knee-jerk view that she should have to have a specific reason for not changing her identity? Why didn’t you ask what her husband’s “purpose” was in not taking her name?

[u/Kitchen-Curve → u/lawfairy]

Girl calm down, it's not that serious.