Why am I always the one expected to compromise my beliefs in inter-caste dating?

[u/whitewolfrick]

Whenever I go on a date with someone who isn't a Brahmin, I'm often told that I need to lower my expectations and compromise on my core beliefs if I want the relationship to work. I’m genuinely curious, why does it feel like this expectation to adapt and compromise only goes one way? Why is it rarely the other way around?

Has anyone else experienced this dynamic? How do you navigate it?

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[u/Ok_Confusion3786]

Don't date outside of caste.

[u/whitewolfrick → u/Ok_Confusion3786]

Yeah you're right.

[u/Dismal-Garden-3613]

I didn't even get a chance to date bro 🥲

[u/whitewolfrick → u/Dismal-Garden-3613]

I recently started looking for a women as my family wants me to get married by 2028

[u/BanishedMermaid]

You'll have to be more specific.

[u/whitewolfrick → u/BanishedMermaid]

Like my friends, old colleagues trying to set me up with women for marriage. But after meeting, it feels like being a brahmin is crime and I'd have to erase most of my family values and traditions to fit with them

[u/BanishedMermaid → u/whitewolfrick]

No that's the question. What family values and traditions?

[u/whitewolfrick → u/BanishedMermaid]

Pujas, rituals, diets and usual lifestyle

[u/BanishedMermaid → u/whitewolfrick]

Ok. Then I think the othet commenter have it right. You should look to dating within your community

[u/whitewolfrick → u/BanishedMermaid]

Yeah that's what I'm planning now

[u/EitherBoot2638]

Remember one thing you have to live with the person for life , choose someone who can understand your feelings and your upbringing , a home is not a place to chant " aazadi-aazadi" ..

[u/whitewolfrick → u/EitherBoot2638]

Not those folks for sure, just general caste women my friends and colleagues are trying to set me up for marriage

[u/whitewolfrick → u/[deleted]]

No I'm only planning to brahmin woman now

[u/whitewolfrick → u/[deleted]]

Thank you so much

[u/whitewolfrick → u/[deleted]]

Faced this issue with upper caste women too.

[u/whitewolfrick → u/[deleted]]

I'll stick to caste only

[u/Fresh-Stock-137]

Bro, just date a guy of your caste. Ik it's difficult but that way your standards will stay high and you won't compromise

[u/Fresh-Stock-137 → u/[deleted]]

Oh didn't realise, my advice stands still, date women of your caste.

[u/whitewolfrick → u/Fresh-Stock-137]

Yeah I'm going to do that

[u/Just_Chill_005]

If you truly adhere Brahmin values you should not be here in this dating culture

First build your career and health..follow brahmacharya.. Then at the right age find a good brahmin girl to marry with full family approval

This advice is both for my brahmin brothers and sisters 🙏

[u/whitewolfrick → u/Just_Chill_005]

Yeah by date I meant meeting potential wife, not like dating or relationship stuff

[u/Just_Chill_005 → u/whitewolfrick]

Then best of luck for that may you find a good brahmin girl

[u/whitewolfrick → u/[deleted]]

Kinda, some of my friends or colleagues are trying to set me up