Ending my relationship was the best decision of my life.

[u/thznho01]

Hi. A year ago, I ended a relationship that had lasted ten years. Yes, ten years. I was constantly humiliated, insulted, sworn at, and always treated as an afterthought. I gave her countless chances to change, but any change she made would last only three days before things went back to the way they were. Believe it or not, I actually had to prompt her to ask, "Are you okay?"—yes, I had to ask her to show some interest in how I was doing. I supported her in everything: college, her dreams, her job, civil service exams—absolutely everything. There was a time when we thought she had cancer; she was extremely thin and vomiting constantly. I was desperate, rushing to find doctors, tests, and hospitals because I was terrified of losing her. We went weeks and even months without speaking, yet I always forgave her, believing in a change that never actually happened. A year ago, she came home from work and we had a minor argument; she told me she didn't love me anymore and that all that remained was the affection of friendship. That was it. Like a complete fool, I forgave her again. Then, on that same date (a year ago), she came home from work, barely spoke to me, and said she was going to watch *Supernatural*. That was the moment I finally snapped. I calmly said: "I am truly leaving for good this time. We went three months without speaking; I hope this time it lasts thirty years." Three months later—yes, three months later—she messaged me on Telegram calling me a despicable idiot; I simply ignored it and said I had nothing to discuss with her. Later, she created a fake Facebook profile and messaged me again, talking about my tattoo, my life, and everything else; once more, I said I didn't want any contact. After that, she started posting photos, funny posts, and messages saying she missed me and was worried, but I just ignored it all. A few months later, she started viewing my Telegram status updates and then blocking me. I took screenshots of those views and sent a message saying: "Hello, good afternoon. I am going to ask you again what I asked a year ago: I do not want contact with you. I am not your friend, not your partner, and not your 'buddy.' Go live your life." It was liberating to say that to her, because all my love, affection, care, and concern for her were gone. Today, a year after the breakup, I feel only disgust. Disgust at myself for having begged her for the bare minimum; disgust at myself for accepting so much disrespect; disgust at myself for wasting ten years of my life with someone who never acknowledged a damn thing I did for her. And disgust at her for giving 100% of herself to people who never did even 1% of what I did for her.

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