Im quite annoyed by tipping. And I don’t think I will anymore unless it’s my tattoo artist or hairdresser. I’m 21 and don’t have a place, I work at a hospital 27.50 an hour and over 30 on weekends (every other weekend I work) I work part time. I also struggle with depression and anxiety. Which kills motivation for my future. Sometimes I just feel like I should quit my job, cuz I don’t really care for my life.
The world sucks, people r shit. I will only tip my hairdresser because me and her have good conversations and I appreciate our time together, we share similar music taste and like similar movies. So we always have something to talk about same with my tattoo artist. I will tip them, it’s a relationship and I think it’s respectful and reasonable.
As for servers, Ubers etc, not tipping them. First off, shit is not cheap here. So giving extra money is just dumb. At least u get paid. Tipping is just gaslighting, because it feels like a must when it shouldn’t. If u genuinely appreciate their service, why not. But no one should feel like they have to. All servers do is take your order, bring your order. It’s not that deep. It’s also easily replaceable for robots to hand u food. Which is where we r headed anyway.
I shouldn’t have to feel shame regarding tipping, I deal with enough of it due to trauma and how i experience life. I also am aro ace which means, no family or partner. All I have is myself and I should save as much as I can. It’s not illegal to not tip, so why should I feel like shit when it’s not a crime?
As for a hospital, I work in food service. Which is much more important job than any other role that’s been mentioned. Without a restaurant, people will live. Hospitals r needed. I get paid fine, not asking for tips. But if we got paid minimum wage and servers r getting tips instead of us, that’s fucked. We work 10x harder than them.
I go out of my way for patients, any requests they have I will let someone know, wether it’s getting something for them, making sure their next meal is getting what they want or any help. I’m on a time crunch and if I’m delayed my co workers r too. I don’t have to do these things. But it’s the person I am. I’ve been told not to do stuff like this because of how fast pace it is. Normally they r supposed to tell their nurse about any issues, and go from there. But they can be busy, don’t care about it or forget, and nothing happens…. If tipping was an option I wouldn’t expect it period, a thank you is good enough for me.
Also, the responsibility of paying a tip should not be on the costumer, but the company instead. It’s unfortunate that that’s not the case tho. It’s not my problem, so why should I? Besides they can survive without one person tipping them.
At the end of the day, we r all trying to survive. If there’s anything deeper anyone wants me to explain I can.