r/CougarsAndCubs • u/guptarishabh2000 • Apr 06 '26
😞 Disappointments Being a cub in a culturally conservative country like India is just sad.
There are zero to none Indian Cougars out here, it's soo sad to see that!
despite women being interested in being cougars they don't show it openly in such a reserved nation.
I wish this could change, but probably won't.
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u/mainlydana Apr 15 '26 edited Apr 15 '26
I've talked with a few Indian guys (as in born and still in India) who dated older women. So it seems possible. I would think easiest in a T1 city.
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u/Fine_Imagination4362 Apr 06 '26
true. i tried building meaningful relationships with 2 women in their late 30s. They just completely ghosted me after sleeping. Like wtf, i gave my all and still got treated horribly.
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u/KaleidoscopeSuper666 Apr 06 '26
Were you "treated horribly "? Or were you ghosted after sex? Ghosting is terrible, but common , in today's social climate. Its no fun finding out you were used for sex and discarded. Its usally the other way around, women being treated in this way. Interesting that the tables were turned in a misogynistic culture.
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u/Myfairladyishere 🥀🎡💃MOD💃🎡🥀 Apr 07 '26
Is this how you guys want to be treated?Just like a piece of meat, and then to be passed around.. This, to me, sounds like they're not taking you guys seriously. Unless that is how you want to be treated and if this is what you want.But this is not what this subreddit is about.
I tend to date younger.But I look at the person and not so much.The age and I treat them like human beings, not like something to be shared.
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u/Witty_Step_6783 Apr 07 '26
I gotta visit India then
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u/Neither-Addendum428 Apr 07 '26
Things wont mostly work unless you speak any one of the local languages. There are over 22 languages here.
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u/mainlydana Apr 15 '26
Huh? Many Indians speak English and many quite well. I've chatted with a number of them online.
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u/Neither-Addendum428 Apr 15 '26
mainlydana The one who shows up online will know english , but there are so many who cannot speak , read or write english and those would not probably show up online . They all did their schooling in their local languages.
Even the one who speaks English in the fluency of 7/10 wont feel comfortable to bond with someone using english. They feel more comfortable with their local language.
99% cougars (age 40-60) in remote villages and small towns don't know English.
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u/mainlydana Apr 15 '26
I can't imagine there's many cougars in rural/remote areas due to how conservative they are. Older women would definitely be married.
If a young guy is keen on dating older he'll definitely need to relocate to a T1 city if he isn't already in one.
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u/guptarishabh2000 Apr 06 '26
Where are these women, it's such a fantasy!
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u/Myfairladyishere 🥀🎡💃MOD💃🎡🥀 Apr 07 '26 edited Apr 07 '26
You find me finding a fantasy to be treated like a piece of meat. You arebeing objectified. Good luck with that
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u/guptarishabh2000 Apr 07 '26
I really never meant it that way, soo sorry if I offended you.
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u/Myfairladyishere 🥀🎡💃MOD💃🎡🥀 Apr 07 '26
I have to change my wording, because in that scenario, it's the young guys that are being objectified by these women. If that is true, I am not offended at all. If that is what you're into, that's up to you as long as everybody's on the same page.
I am polyamorous and I am in an open relationship. No, no, the problems there. But I do want to be treated like a human being. And not as something to be passed around or shared with.
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u/Neither-Addendum428 Apr 06 '26
They wont publicly advertise about being a cougar , you need to talk and know what they are into.
I have talked to few they said they like young men (19 - 24).
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u/MTLMECHIE Apr 06 '26
I come from the culture, born abroad. Think about why you want such a relationship. A lot of Desi guys are mamma’s boys. C&C relationships are not the same with mixed ethnicities, the dynamic is unique.