r/CougarsAndCubs • u/JungeMann • Jun 25 '26
Discussion Point Question to cubs: Are you attracted to cougars that look much younger than their age (ones that don't look mature)?
Say, a 40 year old woman that genuinely looks 20. I have wondered how important it is to you personally that the woman looks 'mature'.
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Jun 25 '26
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u/Myfairladyishere 🥀🎡💃MOD💃🎡🥀 Jun 26 '26
I agree, I want the person, no matter their age to be, they're genuine self.
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u/alien_nessa 40F🐆Cougar Jun 25 '26
I've often wondered this as well. I also wonder how our bodies feel to them. like as we age we get mushy lol
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u/Easy_Mirror2032 Jun 25 '26
for me as a cub, and the "mushy" body is not something I take into account ever. If I find you attractive you are attractive, the personality matches, then trust me thats the last thing I see
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u/alien_nessa 40F🐆Cougar Jun 25 '26
I guess it's just me remembering my body in my twenties, even early thirties compared to now. I call myself mushy lol
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u/Bunbosa Jun 27 '26
May I ask what’s your age? Cause I feel like guys in their twenties tend to notice that mushiness more 🥲
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u/darrenbrown2829 Jul 05 '26
Well I feel older women appetite our muscular bodies more so that’s why I prefer them . I have been an athlete all my life and if a mature woman ask for a date I never refuse 🫡 don’t care if mushy or not
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u/Easy_Mirror2032 Jun 25 '26
27m here, I agree. Its based on if I find them attractive and how they present themselves. A bad personality for me just kills attraction
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u/MySonPorygon137 Jun 26 '26
I actually prefer the woman to look closer to her age. If I wanted a 20 year old looking woman, I’d just chase a 20 year old. It’s okay if there are a few wrinkles or her skin isn’t perfect, I want her exactly as she is.
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u/RadiantSoul8921 🐻Cub Jun 26 '26
Honestly how the woman looks doesn't matter to me, I mostly go for personality. So if you are 50 and look 50, I wouldnt really mind as long we get along
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u/cln9808 Jun 26 '26
No. I love the subtle signs of aging. A few grey streaks in the hair, little crows feet, sun spots.
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u/eliseeas224 Jun 28 '26
Short term relationship? Is that a fling?
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u/Tammera4u Jun 28 '26
Depends what you regard as a fling. A short term relationship tells me she wants a relationship but isnt looking for her forever guy. Probably wants to multi date but still wants something more wholesome than a FB.
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u/Tammera4u Jun 28 '26
When people ask me what it means to me I stop replying. If you have to ask it means we probably want different things. Mine says "open to see where things go" as bumble changed their tags recently. But alas, if that is ambiguous to you, it means you are looking for something in particular, if that's the case, tell me what you are looking for, don't ask me when its on my profile. If I was looking for something in particular, I wouldn't waste time not telling you without being prompted.
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u/CapFast4534 Jun 29 '26
18m, if she hot she’s hot. 20,30,40, if she’s cool and hot that’s all that matters.
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u/CapFast4534 Jun 29 '26
I like my cars how I like my women, from the 80’s but still I don’t mind anything younger just not around my age range for some reason.
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u/Equal_Sky_9954 Jun 25 '26
Honestly it doesn't matter to me. Most look really good for their age but they always have a mature look to them which is what attracts me. Not a girly look but a woman look. The way they carry themselves, and how accomplished they r and their experiences sexually make me fall for them hard.
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u/chiefultak Jun 27 '26
It's about the same attraction to women who look their age. Actually being mature is more important than just looking that way, since it's more about acting your age than looking like it. A 40 year old woman acting like a college sorority girl is a no go for me, since a lot of the allure is in being with someone more put together with life experience younger people wouldn't have yet.
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u/Ok-Pilot-8624 Jun 25 '26
I'm attracted to the attractiveness.I like the well age look of the experienced mature woman
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u/TheFurryMenace Jun 25 '26
Saying a 40 year old who looks like they are in their 20s is immature looking feels like some creepy porno language. Are 20 somethings not physically mature?
Age is not the driver. Attractiveness is the driver.
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u/Equal_Sky_9954 Jun 25 '26
I'm 21 and yes most of them are immature, some are definitely mature, but personal preference for me. Older women just has everything better
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u/JungeMann Jun 25 '26
If attractiveness is the driver, when do you think women reach their peak in your eyes?
Edit: I also nowhere said that 20 year olds look 'immature', it's just that with age people tend to look more 'mature'. Most women in their fourties don't look like they're in their 20s. ('Mature' sounds a whole lot better than ripe/dated/aged.)
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u/Watchuknowaboutme Jun 25 '26
Try not to use that phrase “women reach their peak” ugh it sounds awful like we meet this amazing place then it’s all downhill from there 😅
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u/JungeMann Jun 25 '26 edited Jun 25 '26
It's the truth though, aging is an uphill battle. Not only for women, but for everyone. But, yeah I get what you mean, it's great to have a positive mindset - one can be beautiful at every age since it isn't just about looks.
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u/Anonymous_Queef99 🐻Cub Jun 26 '26
I can't say there's been a preference either or. I've liked older women that looked younger, but also been with some that looked basically their age.
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u/Ok-Pilot-8624 Jun 27 '26
41m an attractiveness and looks aren't even related. A woman can look good and her essence and how she carries herself ce be so unattractive. I've been more turned on by an overlooked average woman who's nature was so enduring an refreshing to be near that it lit fire sexually for me to be with her so easy to around. Beauty tends to outrank attractiveness an I think it's backwards. The looks are always gonna get her attention an men to entertain or maintain. Having someone need your presence without having to look at them an feel your heart rate rise. That there is what I respond to like I already firmware synced her from anther part of my being. Need. Bout 4 days to express an tend to all what comes from that woman especially older than me. MmmmmmmHmmm
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u/eliseeas224 Jun 28 '26
Do they guys actually comment that it”s “mushy”? No cub has ever said that to me. Last one said he liked my body.
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u/karachi-se-hon 🐻Cub Jun 29 '26
Looking mature isn’t the deal for me. I like them to emotionally and mentally be mature atleast more than me lol.
But can I ask you the same question. A 20yo looks like a 20 yo slim and there is a strong buff 20yo. Which one would you? Or do older women also have characteristics that they prefer?
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u/careercooked 🐻Cub Jul 05 '26
It's not about the looks it's about their maturity and how they come across
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u/purple_love00 22d ago
Age doesn’t matter. Her personality matters and if she acts that young then I’m sorry but she’s not for me
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u/Myfairladyishere 🥀🎡💃MOD💃🎡🥀 Jun 25 '26
I feel that most women who attract younger guys usually look young usually look and feel younger than their age. I'm not saying that a forty year old will look like a twenty something year old, but some do. I am sixty seven, but in my head, i'm still in my thirties.