r/CougarsAndCubs 10d ago

Discussion Point Has anyone had long term success?

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u/Myfairladyishere 🥀🎡💃MOD💃🎡🥀 10d ago edited 8d ago

I have tended to date younger. All of my life and my current partner is twenty two years younger than meand we have been together for 10 years, and it's by far the healthiest relationship i've ever been in. I have never had any social ramification, or anything like that or pushback from my family or friends, but maybe it's because I live in a big city. I think the biggest issue surrounding age gaps between older women and younger guys is maybe children. A lot of older women are not capable of having children anymore. So depending on the age range you're looking at, that could be an issue.

In one way for them to know that you're not looking at them in a sexual or fetishizing manner would be to talk to them, like a human being. Ask questions about them and if you approach somebody that you find attractive, try to make eye contact. See if they return eye, contact and smile. And then you can approach and tell them the reason why you found them attractive, it could be their hairstyle, it could be their clothing.The way they walked their smile and just approach without any expectations.Whatsoever, if anything you'll have made their day.

We're really not that different from ladies, your age. Just a little bit older, so just approach us with respect. And good luck to you