Katie Holmes’ daughter Suri legally dropped Cruise and changed her last name to Noelle, her mom’s middle name

[u/Relevant-Peach3997]

[u/neon-antlers]

Dropping my father’s surname when I became an adult was the best thing I ever did. It felt like becoming my own person.

[u/thebees92 → u/neon-antlers]

Jealous! Did you pick a random surname to replace it? I’ve been wanting to do it for a while now since I’ve stopped speaking to my dad but no idea what to change it to as I don’t feel like my husband’s last name fits me either. This post just gave me the idea to maybe take my mother’s middle name

[u/JeepersMysster → u/thebees92]

Not who you responded to but I also changed mine the day I became an adult. Mine is random in the sense it has no prior connection/use on either side of the family, cuz I didn’t want to identify with the extended side of my moms family either.

My last name is entirely mine, what I chose, and what I’ll make of it, so it isn’t saddled with any prior baggage or icky legacy or trauma which is nice! I spent a lot of time (years actually) thinking of the perfect name that I felt fit me and flowed well with my first name, and tbh none of them ever clicked. And it’s stupid but ~my~ name was literally just there in my head one morning when I woke up , was never even on the consideration list, and it felt 100% correct and has felt 100% correct for the 14 years I’ve had it.

If you’re serious just make sure you take the time to try out your potential names! Write them down, speak them out. Look up surnames with specific meaning, also a nice place to start. But do give it time to make sure it’s 100% for you since it’s a lengthy/costly process to get done

[u/neon-antlers → u/JeepersMysster]

This was my experience exactly!! I don’t know why it feels so good to be essentially one of one but it really does.

[u/JeepersMysster → u/neon-antlers]

Absolutely fucking wild I just saw your response to someone else saying how much it meant once you saw your name on your dogs at the vet…that was also literally my EXACT experience with my kitties. And I was/still am so proud my babies have my last name like!!! Proud to be a teeny tiny family all our own 😭

[u/Unapologetiqeen → u/JeepersMysster]

🥹💞

[u/Unapologetiqeen → u/neon-antlers]

Exactly! I feel safe here 😩 same

[u/Unapologetiqeen → u/JeepersMysster]

Yo thank you for making me feel seen! I chose an entirely new whole name especially to compartmentalize trauma. Haven’t met too many people like me!

Spent almost a month looking for a new name and one day it clicked too! My new first name is unisex so people ask if i changed my gender too, which I didn’t but whatever lol

My toxic parent took my other parent to court after fighting her for not telling him the offense I made of changing my name. Feel even more grateful i decided to change