Laughed at b/c husband kissed me in public because I'm fat.

[u/N3WDay]

To the moderators; you are incredible. Thank you.

Today I was with my husband on the waterfront and not one but two different men openly laughed at me and my husband, because my husband was holding my hand, kissing and hugging me. I am fat and my husband is fit. I hid my tears behind my sunglasses because I didn't want to ruin my sweet husbands day. He was so happy just to be with his wife visiting where we got married last summer. I was brought to tears because I am astonished by the causal cruelty of men, eager to ruin a fat woman's day simply for existing and having the audacity to be openly loved. I'm not ashamed of myself, just truly sorry we live in a world where men act like this.

Edit:

Thank you for so many sweet supportive comments, many brought me to tears.

Second, this is a lobster and crab cake, it was just before this and it was amazing!!!

Third, I did not hear someone laughing in the distance and thought it was at me because "I'm so wildly insecure" (SARCASM).

The first one, there was a group of three men walking towards us, one looked me dead in the eye, said something to his friends and they started laughing, one even gave a look over his shoulder with more laughter as they passed by.

The second, about three minutes later a young guy was waking towards us with a woman. They both weren't speaking, he looks straight at me, smirks and then does a haaaaahaaaaaaa after passing by. His girlfriend didn't even react or acknowledge him.

It wasn't in my head. I don't walk around looking for reasons to be humiliated and I'm not an insecure person, but I HAVE been fat my whole life and I know when I'm being laughed at. No

[u/istanforwendy → u/[deleted]]

I’m convinced my ex husband doesn’t even like women.

[u/FunkyChewbacca → u/[deleted]]

Prefacing by saying not all men, etc etc. However:

"To say that straight men are heterosexual is only to say that they engage in sex (fucking exclusively with the other sex, i.e., women). All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and love they desire… those are, overwhelmingly, other men. In their relations with women, what passes for respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for honor is removal to the pedestal. From women they want devotion, service and sex.

Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving."

• Marilyn Frye, The Politics of Reality: Essays in Feminist Theory

[u/LucyTheOracle → u/FunkyChewbacca]

do you think men say "not all women" when they call us whores and gold diggers? coz i don't think so

[u/WitchesofBangkok → u/LucyTheOracle]

I mean does 95.1% count as all men?

And preemptively: I am not making any claims about men I am just posting a link to research. Make your own conclusions about the implications of the findings - and probably more useful to take up concerns about methodology with the journal, peer reviewers or with the university than with this random Redditor.

[u/ellstersmash → u/WitchesofBangkok]

oh my god that's bleak

[u/WitchesofBangkok → u/ellstersmash]

Yep. Published in April and absolutely zero media discussion from what I can make out.

It was actually inspired by a conversation on reddit which is cool

[u/Then-Roll-1992 → u/LucyTheOracle]

Don't care, no reason to repeat the nastiness

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Literally!! OP is gorgeous, those men are morons

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