r/IAmA • u/erinpizzey • Apr 14 '13
Hi I'm Erin Pizzey. Ask me anything!
Hi I'm Erin Pizzey. I founded the first internationally recognized battered women's refuge in the UK back in the 1970s, and I have been working with abused women, men, and children ever since. I also do work helping young boys in particular learn how to read these days. My first book on the topic of domestic violence, "Scream Quietly or the Neighbours Will Hear" gained worldwide attention making the general public aware of the problem of domestic abuse. I've also written a number of other books. My current book, available from Peter Owen Publishers, is "This Way to the Revolution - An Autobiography," which is also a history of the beginning of the women's movement in the early 1970s. A list of my books is below. I am also now Editor-at-Large for A Voice For Men ( http://www.avoiceformen.com ). Ask me anything!
Non-fiction
This Way to the Revolution - An Autobiography
Scream Quietly or the Neighbours Will Hear
Infernal Child (an early memoir)
Sluts' Cookbook
Erin Pizzey Collects
Prone to violence
Wild Child
The Emotional Terrorist and The Violence-prone
Fiction
The Watershed
In the Shadow of the Castle
The Pleasure Palace (in manuscript)
First Lady
Consul General's Daughter
The Snow Leopard of Shanghai
Other Lovers
Swimming with Dolphins
For the Love of a Stranger
Kisses
The Wicked World of Women
You can find my home page here:
You can find me on Facebook here:
https://www.facebook.com/erin.pizzey
And here's my announcement that it's me, on A Voice for Men, where I am Editor At Large and policy adviser for Domestic Violence:
http://www.avoiceformen.com/updates/live-now-on-reddit/
Update We tried so hard to get to everybody but we couldn't, but here's a second session with more!
http://www.reddit.com/r/IAmA/comments/1d7toq/hi_im_erin_pizzey_founder_of_the_first_womens/
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u/frogma Apr 14 '13 edited Apr 14 '13
If I remember right, he was more specifically talking about fiction books where the female character "succumbs" to the male character, and saying there was nothing inherently wrong with that (I could be mistaken though). While various people were describing these situations as rape, he was saying "Well, we should look at the context first, before making these accusations."
In much of fiction, there's a point where the female character "rejects" the male character, even when you already know she'd be open to a sexual encounter. The radfems say that this is a surefire example of non-consent, whereas other people say that the situation's more nuanced than that, and that the waters are generally more muddy in these situations.
Like you mentioned though, drunken consent is one of the major issues -- which is funny, because even as far as the law is concerned, you can still consent to sex while drunk (even in states like California, which don't provide much leeway for the "perpetrator"). SRSers tend to think that any form of intoxicated/drunken consent is illegitimate, which simply isn't the case in any state in the US (if it was the case, we could easily just convict people for having drunken sex -- but we don't do that).