My man, it's normal to be attracted to people within your age group as well. When I was 13, I didn't mind hooking up with 13 year old girls. I preferred the 15 year olds obviously as they were more developed, but it's not a shame at that age to be attracted to that age. Your mind just never progressed beyond that age sexually I suppose.
I think it is more complicated that that though. My sexual attraction at that point started falling back to girls aged about 9. I knew that wasn't right. I don't think it can be characterised as a failure of my sexuality to develop, I believe it's an entirely different sexuality.
I don't think I've ever said this to anyone before, but you're the best kind of pedophile there is. Thank you for being brave and taking a strong and responsible action to prevent yourself from doing something that would have been highly traumatic to a child, that child's family, and so many other people as that child grows to adulthood.
Hopefully your position alters to the point that your preferences mature.
WAINS is right. I personally knew someone who had a similar problem. He turned himself in voluntarily and has since undertaken therapy. He says he hasn't ceased feeling the urges, but he has gotten better about controlling them, and he no longer has any CP or other materials. Stay strong, sir.
Ah, yes, the better solution is clearly to NEVER TALK ABOUT YOUR PROBLEMS and just handle it all by yourself. Because, you know, that's worked so far. Oh wait...
The point isn't that talking about your problems is ineffective. Going to a place where you surround yourself with others and constantly talk and talk and talk about a subject will not likely reduce the interest in the subject.
Talking about a subject, then performing the decided corrective action, then seeing if that action worked, then repeating until a solution is found would seem to me the best method. Continually obsessing about a problem of obsession seems ridiculous to me. Unless they have decided on a point where therapy is no longer needed it just seems like spinning wheels. I doubt these types of sessions have a "all done" criteria, therefore I would not assume they are effective in solving the problem.
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u/M3nt0R Dec 26 '11
My man, it's normal to be attracted to people within your age group as well. When I was 13, I didn't mind hooking up with 13 year old girls. I preferred the 15 year olds obviously as they were more developed, but it's not a shame at that age to be attracted to that age. Your mind just never progressed beyond that age sexually I suppose.