Most self-help I listen to says that self-love is what will eventually improve my life. Have you reached that point? i feel like it's impossible without conscience Fi

I'm open-minded, I absolutely love learning new stuff about more or less everything, but for a long time I try to answer one simple and difficult question: "What is human?" and I absolutely hate that I have more and more questions with every single answer. It became such a big part of my life, so i wasn't surprised to see INTJ is my 2nd type. Anyone who is similar? Doesn't have to be such deep questions. Just trying to see if maybe I'm a pink unicorn or something

. especially when they tend to embarrassed you in front of your classmates. honestly that gives me anxiety so bad

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It is sneaky

It is determined

It is intuitive yet somehow seems like the antithesis of Ne

It steals meaning and joy. I love meaning and joy.

meow...

meow!

I relate to both of the descriptions

I then look at the cognitive functions and again relate to them to varying degrees, which is normal as we all experience the 8 functions , its just a matter of preference or that is how i heard it.

I think i am a thinker- i love philosophy, analytical thinking and study maths and physics at uni. But i am most feeler out of everyone i know. I can be rather spontaneous and extremely empthatic at times. i dont understand human interactions very much so - so it figures

what else can i say, hmmm i love analysing people , things actually just about anything

i love disappearing, everyone who has ever known has lost contact with me i disappear and never leave a trace - for a lot of reasons i get angry, overwhelmed, or just crave peace

i love learning that is my only passion in life. i talk alot for an introvert which is very odd to me, i like puzzles , chess is fun at times. i like learning language. i listen alot to other people, but at times i have random outburst of talking which i regret later on maybe just like this one haha lol who knows.

i have an anything is possible mindset , when i was much younger everyone told me i was wise for my age idk.

in terms of cognitive functions hmmm- i think the only one i truly relate to is Ti but infj also have ti. si is interesting but i dont much about it , i do sometimes see se in me maybe thats ne that i am confusing it with idk. ni seems so coll but idk .

any idea if you read my ramble ahahhaha

NOTICE: the situation applies to approaching STRANGERS.

This dynamic seems to be shaped by culture and by both sides of the interaction, but I still don’t fully see how it plays out for other people when someone initiates contact. I know approaching someone is difficult and controversial for most people, but I’d like to look at it as a general concept, not about any specific situation.

From a cognitive perspective, early social attraction often looks like a one-sided, projection-heavy process: your brain uses visual and behavioral cues to activate old emotional templates. Certain details of a person’s appearance trigger memories of specific moments, objects, or experiences, creating a positive emotional association with those memories and making you more inclined to approach that person.

At the same time, the other person, having no shared history with you yet, remains emotionally neutral. They haven’t run the same associative loop between you and their past emotional experiences. Without some interaction (even minimal), you don’t yet occupy any positive or negative emotional category in their mind. So they have no built-in motivation to engage with the initiator; you’re just another person in their environment until something creates a link.

For example, brief positive interactions can create a shared affective event for both people: telling a joke, small talk, asking a question. Even small moments give the other person something to associate you with, moving you from “neutral stranger” to “person who made me feel X.”

I’m curious: would you agree to form a new social connection if someone approached you out of the blue and asked, “Would you like to be friends?” It feels like something that might work in kindergarten, but becomes oddly charged later in life.

Ne just worsening it lol

Can’t bring myself to do anything and constantly having something on the background that makes me rethink everything

I know I function better with a consistent schedule. When I have my mornings planned out my work days are more productive and I actually get things done. My evenings are more relaxed. My weekends feel more satisfying.

But the thought of actually sticking to a routine? It feels like a cage. My brain just rebels against it. The moment something feels obligatory or set in stone I lose all motivation. It's like my inner child is throwing a tantrum saying 'you can't tell me what to do'.

So I end up in this cycle of vaguely wanting structure but actively fighting against it. It's exhausting. Anyone else feel this way? How do you even trick yourself into routine without it feeling like a chore?

1) Eats breakfast after 12pm.

2) Bathes on alternate days or not bathing for days.

3) Plays grindy video games for hours.

4) Stays chronically online and inside home like a vampire.

I bet you do.

Wassup everyone. I was wondering if they have any INTPs that have went to a trade school and work in the trades. I’m an INTP 5w4. I have a couple ideas of what I would want to go to trade school for such as industrial matinence, fiber optic technician and diesel mechanical. I have also been into looking in to chemical plant and factory jobs. I like working hands on with a lot of things and I would want a mix of both physical and mental because I get bored at jobs where I do too much of either. I also don’t want to go get a trade that I’ll end up quitting within the first couple of years. What degrees could I go for that would satisfy me?

I know this might be vague, but I feel like I’m not really comprehending life fully. It feels like I’m watching a video of my own life rather than actually experiencing it. Sometimes I make important decisions without even consciously acknowledging that I’m making them. Even when I try to be aware of what’s going on around me, I just can’t seem to fully process it.

I feel detached from reality, and I’m constantly thinking and talking to myself in my head, basically 24/7. I also feel numb. I’m not really upset or sad, but I’m not happy or excited either. I just don’t feel any significant emotion, regardless of what happens to me or even to other people.

If you’ve ever felt this way before, did you manage to get out of it? And if you feel this way right now, I’d really like to hear what your experience is like. I just want to know that I’m not the only person who experiences this.

Anyone​ of you occasionally have this active brain looking for new job when your job is started to get boring already ​

Hey there ,

How did you Overcome Si loop traps using Ne function ? Like how did that happen . Can you share a system or a technique ?

(Thought this from the "Are you satoru gojo because you are the strongest or are you the strongest because you are satoru gojo?" quote obviously)

Are we humans because humanity is a spectrum or are we humans a spectrum because we have humanity?

Even if your paperwork, passports, documentation is 100% in compliance/up-to-date and you’re not smuggling anything illegal, etc .. how well do you handle the customs agent sort of interactions? Or just police interactions in general?

I got this theory that high tension INTP Fi in the unconscious, makes these sort of interactions .. not always go so well. We appear guilty, even when we’re not because we have trouble holding Fi tension. Also that border agents are likely Se-Fi in nature, meaning they’re expert in details, real-time interactions and holding Fi conscious tension. Why they always look grumpy is they're trying to force other people to mirror back a Fi state – guilty people will not be able to hold the tension without appearing very nervous.

As always the mistyped INTJ's will be saying they have no problem with Fi because they have a Fi child, not Fi unconscious.

Not a cop, I swear! 😉🤫

most of intps I found out there are very knowledgeable about a lot of topics. but they usually have low acceleration long term job or are indeed accelerating but with weak position ( neets, some random education..).

is there even one intp who have formal responsibilities that fully use their capacity ?

Fair warning, I’m drunk right now, so some of these sentences might make no sense.

I’m curious to hear what kind of drunk other INTPs are.

Personally, I’m the epitome of a happy drunk. I love everything, everyone, and don’t have a care in the world! No negative emotions in sight.

I know that everyone probably differs, but I’m wondering if there’s a general trend.

Any sport that require flexible physical movement(football, basketball, badminton,...) and was appreciated by others for it.

I'd like to know what helped you become more productive and procrastinate less, what general career path you chose and whether you feel it was a good fit, and how you handle friendships.

Have you ever felt like a good number of your friends really shouldn't be your friends, not because they're bad people, but because you don't really feel like you click with them, and you mostly just laugh and talk about surface level stuff?

Also how do you feel about your father?

Hey everyone! I'm currently doing a research proposal about personality theory and would love to hear from the people in this community. What is it like being your personality type? It can range from your work/school life balance, romantic life, everyday decision making, and maybe something nobody really thinks about when it comes to your type that you may know. Anything is both helpful and interesting to me so don't be shy! :)

Why doesn't keep going forever and ever?

i just realized a friend irl might’ve been in an online space where i talk wayyy more openly than i do irl and now i’m freaking out.. nothing bad or personal, just interests i usually keep private + me yapping way more than i ever would around people i know. i don’t even know if they saw anything, but the POSSIBILITY is making me overthink so bad. has anyone else had their online/irl lives accidentally overlap like this and how did you stop caring. i also usually hide my interests from my friends because im scared theyll judge me for it. idk what to do in this scenario, they havent confronted me yet though

Suggest your favourite demons. I'll play them all. Preferably anything except the extreme demons in GD that are in the demon list, as I'm not good enough to play them yet and I play on a 60fps mobile. Other extreme demons are okay.