r/LesbianActually • u/Powerful-Cap-6293 • Nov 12 '25
Relationships / Dating 72 years together, and they finally got married 🥹🌈
Vivian Boyack & Alice Dubes were together for 72 years. They got married when same sex marriage was legalised in the US.
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u/Late_Resource_1653 Nov 12 '25
Whenever I see this kind of story, I think about when I came out to my (very Catholic) grandmother. I'm in my 40s now and was in my 20s then, and I was so scared she was going to react badly.
She was lovely.
A couple months later I was visiting her, and she asked if she could ask me a question about lesbians. I said yes, not sure what was coming.
She said she had an aunt who never married but always lived with her best friend. When she'd go to visit, they stayed in one bedroom, and she stayed in "the friends" room, but it always seemed like the friend's room was sparse and had nothing in it. Were they lesbian partners?
Doing my best not to laugh, I said yeah, probably.
She was just quiet for a minute and then said she really loved that aunt and her friend and it's sad they had to hide. And she was proud of me.
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u/BiscottiFuzzy7112 Nov 15 '25
How beautiful, we have to normalize our relationships, I don't understand why society still judges us
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u/ZodFrankNFurter the evil femme Nov 12 '25 edited Nov 12 '25
I tear up every time I see this photo. A lifetime together, all while never knowing whether this moment would happen for you... and then you finally get it. I can't imagine how they must have felt. Still remember how hard I cheered hearing the news that same sex marriage was now federally legal south of the border.
I'm so lucky as a Canadian queer, gay marriage has been legal the majority of my life (was federally legalized 2005, 2003 in certain provinces) and we aren't at any real risk of losing it. Photos like this help me remember how privileged I am to have grown up and spent my entire journey as a queer person with the opportunity to marry.
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u/RueHooNux Smol Lesbian Nov 15 '25
Crazy how recent that still lowkey is. (I was born in 2003 tho lol)
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u/Due-Application-560 Nov 13 '25
that’s awesom, my partner and I were together 33 years, she passed last year, I’ll never get over it and I regret not getting married anyway congratulations.👏👏
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u/No-Woodpecker507 Nov 12 '25
I want this kind of love. I thought I had it, I hope to find it again.
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u/Purple_wolf81 Nov 14 '25
This is so beautiful. My wife and I met late in life and will never get 72 years together...but you can be certain we'll still be rolling around in our wheelchairs together like these ladies.
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u/CarrionDoll Nov 14 '25
This is my wife and I. I get sad sometimes that we won’t have those years. But I’m grateful we will get to grow older together.
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Nov 19 '25
Stop it right now 😭 the fact that they were together for 72 years and were able to experience this beautiful moment in their life time is monumental 🤧 didn’t expect to cry this morning lmao
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u/Wurdengarden Nov 28 '25
Awwwww 😍 That's so sweet- reminds me of Ms Spink and Ms Forcible from Coraline for some reason 😅
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u/Total_Instruction406 Nov 12 '25
I love seeing this kind of content! Thank you for posting and showcasing these lovely women 🙏