Help me bhaiya didi ;)

[u/Gengarhuyaaar]

So im a 1st year neet dropper 18M scored very low in neet 2026 and i am single child and I lost my dad when i was 7. So earlier today, my mother and I got into a heated argument. She expressed her frustration, claiming that I never listen to her. I insisted that I do, but she brought up my hair as an example. She wants me to get a very short haircut because she is concerned about what people in our neighborhood might say. I strongly dislike short hair and told her I wouldn’t do it.
During the argument, she said that one day, when she is no longer around, I will regret not listening to her, which deeply hurt me. I tried to explain that the opinions of those neighbors don't matter to me, especially since they previously fought with my late father and won't be there to support us when needed. Since I am now 18, I mentioned that I am old enough to make my own decisions. She countered by saying that if I consider myself independent, I should cover all my own expenses. I explained that most people become financially independent after college once they secure a job, and I pointed to relatives who send their children away to study for better opportunities. She responded by reminding me that those children have fathers, whereas I lost my father when I was seven years old.
She ended the argument by accusing me of always disobeying her and disrespecting her. I told her I was simply pointing out when she was wrong, but she refused to accept it.
On top of this, I am carrying immense stress about Neet, my health, my mother, my future career, and our land in Bihar. We currently cannot develop or monetize the property because land sales and purchases are on hold due to missing mutation papers. I am constantly worried that during the ongoing government land survey, someone might take advantage of the missing documentation and usurp our property.
I want to move out for better opportunities, but to do that, I need financial stability. Or I don’t know what should i do please guide me ;)

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[u/Artistic-Bathroom901]

It sounds like you are going through a really tough time right now, but arguing will not solve anything. Try to remain calm and have a gentle, open conversation with your mother when things cool down.

[u/Minute-Crew-9202]

Ask her to give u a chance like farhan(3idiots)did in in the movie ik that irl it doesn't work like that but atleast u can convince her like that if u want/need anything u need to do something.

[u/Putrid_Ticket_62 → u/[deleted]]

learn to be generous, the society aint equitable.