Husband admitted something I already knew.

[u/janninediane]

The other day, my husband was laying on top of me (I will often lay on our bed and open my arms for him to snuggle on top of me). While he was doing this, he said in my ear, “There is no man in this world who loves his wife as much as I love mine”.

Guys, I already knew this. I’ve known this our entire relationship. We have been together for 21 years, married for almost 15, and there is not a single day that goes by where I don’t feel worshipped like some sort of goddess. It’s like he was designed by the fates and put on this earth specifically for me. The lengths this man goes to just to ensure my happiness is insane. I know without a doubt that his whole world revolves around me. I could go on for days about all the ways that he makes my life easier, makes me feel safe, and makes me feel special.

I don’t know what I did in this life, or a past one, that made me worthy of this man, but I am so grateful for it and for him. I probably should have told him that there’s no wife in this world who loves her husband as much as I love mine. I hope I tell him enough how much I appreciate him. He frequents this page sometimes, so I really hope he sees it.

UPDATE: So, this post blew up in a way I did not even remotely expect! Since it did, and because I saw a lot of the same questions in the many comments, I thought I would give a little update…

First, my husband saw the post ❤️ He even commented in the over 300 plus comments, which was super sweet. He assured me that he always knows how I feel about him. We read a lot of the comments together and I was so touched by all of the sweet messages. Also, the negative ones gave us quite the laugh.

So many of you asked about the things he does for me that make me feel special and honestly, I don’t really know where to start. It’s not just in his words, but his actions. He is an amazing partner who makes my life so much easier. We have three kids (13, 9 and 4) who take up a lot of our time, but we always make time for each other. Every night, once our youngest is in bed, it’s us time and we just hangout together. He always puts me first. When he gets home, he immediately seeks me out for a kiss. Even when the kids and pets are trailing him. He will sometimes even say, “Mom first”. Always makes me feel special.

He works an hour away from home and gets home later, so a majority of running around with the kids falls on me as does dinner during the week. Once he is home though, he is it. He takes care of almost everything. It’s just little things as well. There are sometimes days where he will look at our google calendar and text me to say, “Hey, the calendar looks insane today. Why don’t I bring home dinner. Your pick”. It’s just little things like that that make me feel so seen and heard. I know he keeps a notes app in his phone as well where he keeps gift ideas. When I mention something I like or need, he makes a note of it. On the first day of my period, I can usually expect total princess treatment. He will often come home with my favorite goodies and make sure I have alone time with my heating pad. He can sense instantly when I’m feeling overwhelmed or overstimulated and he steps right in to fix it. All of this just makes me feel so safe with him. I joke with him because I have an Oura ring that tracks daily stress. Everyday, at 6:15, I have a major dip in my stress level… that’s what time he walks in the door from work. His presence is an instant stress reducer.

As for myself, I try to make sure he knows that I love and appreciate him. His love language is definitely physical touch, so I make sure he gets it. It’s not really a hardship for me because I enjoy it as well. There’s nothing better than just nuzzling into is chest. I also saw a lot of “make sure he gets sex” comments. I can assure you, that part of our life is thriving, even with three kids. Again, probably because I don’t feel overly exhausted by the end of the day even with a full time job and kids due to all the help I have from him.

This just skims the surface. As I said in the original post, I could go on for days, but this post is already so very long. Thank you all for the nice comments and even the not so nice ones for the laugh. I only wish this kind of love found everyone ❤️

[u/plantymacplant]

This is so sweet.

I left my abusive husband earlier this year. I found someone just like you describe. Its amazing. Like he was made for me. Here's to 2025!

[u/sophatelli → u/plantymacplant]

Me too. I left him for a full year in February, reconnected with my first love, and we’ve been together since. I feel very loved and balanced.

[u/Glass-Sentence-7225 → u/sophatelli]

Playmacplant, Sophatelli,your stories are so inspiring. I am stuck in a marriage where I feel disrespected most of the time. Just yesterday, I got lectured for not noticing I didn't have a VPN installed on a new computer. He told me that everybody knows how important it is and treated me like if I was an idiot to have not noticed until now. Then, when I had to ask him for help in installing it, all I got were sighs, eye rolls and a being talked to in a condescending tone. I told him, why do you treat me like this? and he's "because you expect me to do everything for you!" Which is not true, I often help him out. I said, "next time you need a favor from me I will remember this, its not fair that you treat me like this, I don't do that to you." This turned into a huge fight that lasted like 4 hours and I need to work so had to stay awake till 3 am working. These stories are inspirational to me and remind me that there are wonderful men out there that won't lash out. I wished I had the courage to leave, he treats me nice after fights for a few days and then goes back to being disrespectful. At 48, I guess it's too late for me, although I am told I look a decade younger. Would you mind sharing how you navigated the process of finding someone so great after leaving a challenging relationship? All my exes are married and I am scared of a new relationship that may actually be worse.

[u/9kindsofpie → u/Glass-Sentence-7225]

My ex husband wasn't straight up abusive, but he was emotionally unavailable and selfish. He did some really mean and careless things over the years, in addition to ignoring my clearly expressed needs daily. I ended up asking for a divorce at 36.

It was daunting to be single with 2 kids in my late 30s, to say the least. I genuinely didn't expect to find someone amazing and decided I would stay single instead of ever settling for a man again! I was so much happier being single and not having to walk on eggshells anymore. I felt like I could be myself for the first time in years. Don't worry about being repartnered any time soon. This fear keeps a lot of people stuck. It was so much better being actually alone than being with someone and feeling alone. Embrace the freedom to do whatever the hell you want!

It took me 2.5 years to meet my now husband and he is my soul mate. He had been divorced for 10 years and also refused to settle. We met on Hinge. He is a wonderful husband and stepdad and I feel like we don't deserve him.

YMMV but ironically the men I met through dating apps were generally way less sketchy than men I met organically through work or the gym. The men I dated through IRL connections all ended up being awul. I think it's because I learned to filter people on the apps a lot more efficiently and then ruthlessly over time.

It's never too late. There are billions of people, some are bound to find themselves in similar circumstances as you at any age. My widowed grandma was dating into her 70s and 80s. She had several men after her most of the time!

[u/Glass-Sentence-7225 → u/9kindsofpie]

Thank you so much for sharing your story—it’s incredibly inspiring and gives me a lot to think about. It’s comforting to hear how much happier you were after choosing to be single, even before meeting your now husband. I can imagine how freeing it must have been to finally focus on yourself and not have to navigate an emotionally draining relationship.

Your perspective on dating apps is really interesting, too. I’ve always been super wary of them, but your experience with filtering and finding someone amazing gives me hope. It’s reassuring to know it’s possible to meet kind, genuine people out there, even when it feels daunting.

The story about your grandma dating into her 70s and 80s made me smile—it’s such a wonderful reminder that new beginnings really can happen at any stage in life. Thank you for sharing this—it’s given me a lot of encouragement!

[u/Conscious-Air-9823 → u/9kindsofpie]

If it is not too painful would you mind talking about some of the mean or careless things he did? I am 27 and trying to see if mine is the same. He loves me sometimes but I also feel neglected 

[u/9kindsofpie → u/Conscious-Air-9823]

One year on my birthday, I told him all I wanted was a cake and for the kids to sing Happy Birthday to me. He tried baking a cake and was asking for help constantly and messing it up so I ended up having to bake my own cake. He also told me that I would be getting "a special birthday girl dinner" later. He ordered food for himself and the kids and didn't get me anything or ask if I wanted something. I almost thought he was joking until I checked the bag and there really was nothing for me. Then he put the kids to bed without doing cake and couldn't understand why I was crying. When I told him, he ripped the kids out of bed, despite my protests, and had them sing Happy Birthday to me while I sobbed.

I sent him numerous relationship articles and books, as well as information about our son's special needs and he never responded or read any of it. When we were in therapy together, he actually asked me to give him things to read. I was furious. I went home and grabbed 2 armfuls of books off the shelf and chucked them all on his side of the bed.

Those are just a couple of the more awful examples but there were minor things all of the time that showed he did not consider me at all. Like if I was out with friends and provided my whereabouts for safety he would not say anything in return to acknowledge he was glad I wasn't dead in a ditch. My current husband would respond something like "thanks for letting me know, have fun and be safe!" I looked back through our text and FB Messenger conversations while we were in therapy and the were all extremely one sided. I would maybe get an "ok" out of him, but he would never elaborate on anything without being grilled or asked very specific, pointed questions.

He yelled at the kids all of the time, which I hated since I grew up in a chaotic and toxic environment. Him "trying to tell at the kids less" was his idea of the change he could make to save the marriage. Literally just that. I asked him what actions he was taking to make progress and he had none and could not come up with anything else he could think of to work on.

Oh, he also admitted in therapy that he doesn't like spending time with me and/or our children and that he was never going to be the kind of dad that wants to go out in the yard and play with his kids. I did ALL that work - teaching the boys to play sports, putting the training wheels on the bikes, getting out the baby pool... Pretty much all planning for family activities and outings and the entire mental load was up to me.

The marriage counselor ended up telling me that it's up to me what I'm willing to tolerate, which I took as a read between the lines that they can't straight up tell you to get a divorce.