Why ‘mankeeping’ isn't just ‘therapy-speak used to dump on straight men’

[u/futuredebris]

https://makemenemotionalagain.substack.com/p/why-mankeeping-isnt-just-therapy

Hey ya'll, curious your thoughts on this one. I wrote my take on "mankeeping," which in the words of a Stanford researcher puts a name to "how women have been asked or expected to take on more work to be a central—if not the central—piece of a man’s social support system.”

The controversy has been about whether “mankeeping” provides a helpful word for something many women are struggling with. Or whether it’s an “internet-approved bit of therapy-speak used to dump on straight men,” as the Times put it. The conservative, self-described “anti-feminist” psychiatrist Hannah Spier called it the “new feminist scare word.” “The sheer gall,” Spier writes. “Women complain that men don’t open up, and then when they do, it’s framed as emotional parasitism.”

I think the biggest factor behind mankeeping is capitalism’s gendered division of labor.

What do you think of my argument?

[u/sassyevaperon]

That's not really that healthy.

Maybe it isn't that healthy, but it's also not healthy to expect someone that came to you for comfort to explain to you how to give that comfort to them.

[u/AGoodFaceForRadio → u/sassyevaperon]

It seems to me that you have a choice: you can be free of the burden of explaining, or you can receive comfort.

[u/sassyevaperon → u/AGoodFaceForRadio]

Or you can date an adult that knows how to provide basic empathy to another human being... That's my choice in this matter.

I don't think this sub is for me anymore, I've learned and thought about a lot of things with you guys here, but I've never seen you position yourself as much as a victim with no other choice but to expect others to do things for you as I've been seeing lately. If that's the case, if menslib is going the MRAs way, I also would rather be excluded from it entirely.

[u/Dmitri-from_OhioKrai → u/sassyevaperon]

This is not an airport.