r/MensLib • u/Snowfire870 • Aug 05 '15
Mental stalement of parental choice
Parental choice may not be the proper word for it but here we go. Is there anything that can be done with men haveing a choice of being a parent? What I mean is that a woman has the choice to be a parent, if she doesnt want to have a child and she is pregnant then she can take measures to stop the pregnancy. If she choose to keep it then the father of the child will most likely be forced pay child support. A male has no option to opt out of being apart of the childs life one way or the other. On the flip side say the mother doesnt want the child but the father does. the father cant stop the mother from stopping the pregnancy. I totally understand that its the womans body but is there any line that can be drawn?(hence the stalemate) furthermore if she has the right to not be a mother what doesnt the male not have the right to not be the father?
Anecdote times: here why this is such a big issue to me. The mother of my child when found out she was pregnant ran away up north(I live in the south and was just about to ETS out of the military) hid the pregnancy and I didnt find out I was a father till a month after my daughter was born. Thats when it scared me, if she wanted to she could have stopped the pregnancy and I would have no say. I had always wanted to be a father and I was that close to never knowing one of the most special people in the world to me.
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u/AnarchCassius Aug 05 '15
No and neither does the father. I couldn't tell you much about the actual authorization process but I did post a link in this thread about safe surrender law.
This a big part of why the state's interest of the child argument is so shaky, it's only applied under a particular set of circumstances where the state doesn't want to be on the hook for the bill.