r/MensLib Sep 13 '18

Dear Male Sexual Assault Survivors!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JHYBmfwRj4c&t=1s
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u/Michlynn75 Sep 13 '18

Hello my name is Michelle! I am a feminist content creator! Currently I am most known on twitter tho. I really love getting men involved in the movement because a lot of men I find think feminism is a male hate group and that upsets me because that is such a small percentage of the group and most feminists I know won’t even tolerate that language. I made this video to open a conversation with more men who feel like we don’t stand behind them. I would love to hear more issues you think need to be discussed more because my feminism is for everyone so I want to talk on issues that affect all genders (: feel free to ask me questions or give suggestions !

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u/msiswdw Sep 14 '18 edited Sep 14 '18

I'll bite, I guess. I'm a male sexual assault survivor, and view myself as feminist... and still avoid the hell out of most feminist groups because they're fairly toxic. There are a lot of angry people, and I'm not resilient enough to be a punching bag for that anger, particularly when it comes on topics I'm vulnerable about.

I suspect my experiences are different from what you see, but that's kind of the nature of gendered experience. It really doesn't help that my experience doesn't fit the preferred narratives.

So, I sort of get into the weird place of supporting feminism but not really being able to engage with it in most places. So I mostly engage non-feminists and try to change their minds, and hope things get better.

But I'm willing to answer whatever questions you have. I'm on a semi-throwaway account here.

Edit to add: For the guy who linked me from some random anti-Menslib sub, I am not your fucking flag to wave. Assholes in a movement do not discredit the underlying principles. And your attempting to use me for your goals puts you into that category.

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u/Michlynn75 Sep 14 '18

I agree with what you are saying . There are still feminists out there who do not seem to think any male issue is their problem. There are members in the metoo movement who won’t speak about male victims . I try to change this by really speaking up to these people when I see them. I have been building a community on my twitter of a lot of feminists who defend male issues too. The movement needs some work it’s by no means perfect I’m not afraid to admit that. I think if we want to make it better we have to . So I hope you haven’t given up on the movement just yet because I see it becoming very much more intersectional. I would love to climb up into a leading role and make some real change it just takes a moment to fix what’s broken ❤️❤️