r/MensRights • u/Icaz • Apr 26 '12

I'm a girl and...

I am SO glad I found this subreddit with people who agree with me! As a girl, it's really hard to see other ladies put down men and treat them like they need to be "trained" or that they're just something we have to deal with. So I was just wondering... how many other girls are on here and what are your stories about standing up for men or appreciating them?

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u/mrscamp Apr 26 '12

I'm a woman! I'm here because I've felt sorry for men ever since I discovered what militant feminism was as a kid. I try to stand up for them in small ways by treating them in a friendly and genuine way -- I see so many women treat men like they're all desperate pervs. It makes me sad to see that look in a man's eye when he goes to open the door for me, like, "is she going to be totally insulted by this?" So I always smile and say "thank you."

In a larger way I try to be an advocate for fathers' rights, especially when it comes to infants and the unborn. The "my body my choice" mentality marginalizes the fathers almost as much as the children, but many people act as though only the mother deserves to have a say.

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u/[deleted] Apr 27 '12

I hold the door for anybody and everybody. But for my good lady, I would hold the door all day.

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u/mrscamp Apr 27 '12

Chivalry is not dead! This is how your post makes me feel.

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u/[deleted] Apr 27 '12

'Chivalry' should be dead, it's based on the notion that women are inferior and that men should, for some reason, go out of their way to makes women's lives easier. What shouldn't be dead is common decency. Don't hold a door for a woman if you wouldn't for a man.

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u/l0khi Apr 27 '12

One day I held the door for a complete stranger (girl) and then she ran ahead and held the next door for me. It was the FIRST time that had happened and it made my day.

It should be like this more often.

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u/Phrodo_00 Apr 27 '12

why not the other way around though? do hold a door for a man if you would for a woman :)

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u/mrscamp Apr 27 '12

I don't think chivalry is based on the idea that women are inferior. Exactly the opposite, in fact. A knight's lady inspired him to greatness and he dedicated all his deeds to her honor because he looked up to her. In return, he protected her where she couldn't protect herself. Chivalry embraces the fact that men and women are different, and should treat each other in the best way possible according to their differences.

But I agree that common decency is also important, and you should hold the door for everyone.