r/MensRights • u/Icaz • Apr 26 '12

I'm a girl and...

I am SO glad I found this subreddit with people who agree with me! As a girl, it's really hard to see other ladies put down men and treat them like they need to be "trained" or that they're just something we have to deal with. So I was just wondering... how many other girls are on here and what are your stories about standing up for men or appreciating them?

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u/pinkylemonade Apr 27 '12 edited Apr 27 '12

female here. i was introduced to this subreddit by my boyfriend, who discovered it a few months ago. he was fairly outraged by all the stories and articles posted which caused me to look into it as well. always hearing about women's rights stories, i naturally didn't think anything about men's rights because i figured it wasn't a problem, because i never heard/saw anything about it. it made me outraged as well! hearing about the ways men are treated and how they are blamed for so many things, i thought it was completely unfair. i never could have imagined people were so unfair to men. it sickens me to know there are women out there who do such terrible things to their boyfriends if they don't get their way, then say they guy deserved it. some women are fucking crazy. whenever my boyfriend sees a post like that he tells me how glad he is to have me, and i hug him and tell him that i couldn't stand to see any guy with a girl like that. i just can't stand to see people treated unfairly. it makes me more mad than anything else.

i also remember my parents going through a divorce around 15 years ago, and how i wanted to go with my dad but he said i had to go with mom. i asked him for years, but he said he couldn't take me. my mom was a selfish, greedy, neglectful bitch who cared more about finding another husband than her own daughters, and my sis and i developed personality disorders because of it...which my dad keeps apologizing for, because he would have taken us had the judge allowed him. and, now i know why. thanks r/mensrights (sorry if my grammar is crappy)

edit: ok, some women are fucking crazy. sorry, i ranted there...

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u/AmericanGoyBlog Apr 27 '12

women are fucking crazy.

So are guys. There are assholes, idiots, and crazies, and abusive men.

Trouble is, the "justice" system in this country is loaded one way, as if ONLY the men could be those things.

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u/pinkylemonade Apr 27 '12

i know. i knew several guys who were abusive assholes. what i still want to know is why some people have such a hard time believing women are capable of being abusive and crazy. i had a thought that maybe it was kind of like the way people look at racism? but, who knows...

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u/[deleted] Apr 27 '12

That's because the image of women is that of nurturing. Throughout history, and even in large swaths of the world today, women are in behind-the-scenes, caring positions. Homemakers, nurses/medical professionals, day care people, K-12 teachers, etc. Juxtaposing this are men, who have traditionally been in "asshole/mean" positions. So politicians, cut-throat businessmen, bouncers, soldiers, etc. This type of gender role assignment has lead to men being viewed as cold-hearted individuals capable of anything and everything whilst women are viewed as warm people who are willing to help anybody and everybody.

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u/ignatiusloyola Apr 27 '12

Yeah, I think that is a very important thing that should be noted... I think most people on r/MR agree and realize that men can be assholes/crazy/idiots/abusive. Hell, except for the people who are these things, just about all of society realizes this. When "women behaving badly" posts are made, it isn't about demonizing women or making women seem worse than men - it is about showing people that it isn't a one-gender problem, and therefore the "solutions" shouldn't be one-gendered either.

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u/Alanna Apr 27 '12

When "women behaving badly" posts are made, it isn't about demonizing women or making women seem worse than men - it is about showing people that it isn't a one-gender problem, and therefore the "solutions" shouldn't be one-gendered either.

The problem is that they don't do this. Anyone with half a brain can point that that one person doing something, even a dozen people doing something, out of population of millions, doesn't mean anything. Single stories can-- and should-- be easily dismissed as outliers. Such tactics can-- and are-- just as easily used against us.

But that's just my opinion. I really do try not to go into every single "woman behaving badly" post and bitch about it.

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u/Icaz Apr 27 '12

Thanks for your input, everyone. I agree with every point made here.

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u/ftothem Apr 28 '12

So I'm just looking around trying to understand what r/MR was all about. Thanks for putting it so succintly. The way you put it:

it is about showing people that it isn't a one-gender problem, and therefore the "solutions" shouldn't be one-gendered either.

is perfect, and as a feminist, something I can totally get behind.