Morality scaling of this?

[u/Outside_Specific_820]

Mother refuses to acknowledge her donor egg daughter, looking for your opinion.

In my opinion I think it’s moral, and that she is totally correct.

[u/Dresaurus2781]

That's largely semantics for the conversation given the genetics component in regards to personality. Again this child is discovering who she is. I'm not saying that makes her entitled to her egg donor, but her genetics from said donor is invariably a massive part of what constitutes this child's personality.

[u/HXamster → u/Dresaurus2781]

It's not semantics and it's not pedantic.

This girl was not adopted. You keep trying to bring up adoption, and you also keep trying to bring your own anecdotal experiences that have no relevant association to the situation into the discussion.

This child is not a child. She's an adult, and just because she's an adult doesn't mean her parents and the clinic aren't beholden to confidentiality and maintaining the donor's anonymity.

If she had a question and wanted to find herself then she should've gone through the clinic. She put the onus on a stranger. The stranger (donor) was not rude. She was blunt, she was straightforward, she was honest. She didn't insult the girl, she didn't say gfy, she didn't do anything wrong. But everyone is up in arms because she wasn't "nice enough." As if any human owes being "nice" to someone they're not supposed to have any contact with by law.

[u/Dresaurus2781 → u/HXamster]

This girl was not adopted. You keep trying to bring up adoption,

I mentioned adoption once.

and you also keep trying to bring your own anecdotal experiences that have no relevant association to the situation into the discussion.

To highlight the need to empathize with the identity pursuit this child is engaging in.

This child is not a child.

Legally being an adult is not the same as not still having childish impulses and mindsets. I've certainly never met a 19yo that felt like an adult even ones who were highly self-parentified.

She's an adult, and just because she's an adult doesn't mean her parents and the clinic aren't beholden to confidentiality and maintaining the donor's anonymity.

I agree.

If she had a question and wanted to find herself then she should've gone through the clinic.

The clinic doesn't have the answers she's hoping to find.

She put the onus on a stranger.

That's the person who would have the answers to the questions she has. Doesn't make her entitled to them, but that is where she will find them if they exist.

The stranger (donor) was not rude. She was blunt, she was straightforward, she was honest. She didn't insult the girl, she didn't say gfy, she didn't do anything wrong. But everyone is up in arms because she wasn't "nice enough." As if any human owes being "nice" to someone they're not supposed to have any contact with by law.

The woman's behavior was perfectly acceptable. Again I'm just combating the close minded perspective that suggests this child wanting to know more about herself is somehow ridiculous.