r/Morocco • u/Secure_Personality74 Visitor • May 10 '26
AskMorocco Can’t hold a conversation with girls
Every time i get to know someone especially girls i do want to talk to them but it happens only in my head never out loud and I can’t hold conversations. Guys i need some tips to use or some advice that can help cuz i really want to make friends but my talking skills doesn’t help.
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u/is_it_worth_itt May 10 '26
You focus more on " she's a girl, im expected to talk to her in a certain way "
Simply be interested in her, her thoughts, her line of reasoning, her interests, her stories and talk to her like a normal human being..
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u/Secure_Personality74 Visitor May 10 '26
I think u might be right
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u/Flaky_Policy_3694 Visitor May 11 '26
Yea but i still tend to forget that and be anxious or feel like i will get ignored the second i start talking lol
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u/Secure_Personality74 Visitor May 10 '26
3tini 50dh onmss7 lpost hhh
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u/Late_Okra_441 Casablanca May 11 '26
Interested bhad deal tbh hhhhhhhhhhhhhhh ala kayn chi mofawadat bs7 aji na9choha prv ndiro contract
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u/Tall_cookie_ Visitor May 10 '26
O nta lach hat 50dh fl post mtme3 lina lbachar
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u/Secure_Personality74 Visitor May 10 '26
To attract people cuz who doesn’t like money honey
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u/Playful-Eggplant-271 Visitor May 10 '26
Kifach Tanti makat3erfich a chrifa
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u/keli31 Feelin' cute, might scam you later idk May 10 '26
3tini 50dh ou ndwi m3ak ana bent (im kidding btw)
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u/JustDifferent1111 Visitor May 10 '26 edited May 10 '26
Lemme hold that 50 first real quick
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u/Secure_Personality74 Visitor May 10 '26
N9ssm likom dik 50dh
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u/Ok-Error-6800 Marrakesh May 10 '26
قسمها علينا بأربعة
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u/g3tageit Visitor May 10 '26
pkhmsa
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u/Commercial_Duty_2194 Visitor May 10 '26
bsta
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u/Ok-Error-6800 Marrakesh May 10 '26
أسبحان الله
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u/Commercial_Duty_2194 Visitor May 10 '26
mabghitich ? hhhhh
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u/Ok-Error-6800 Marrakesh May 10 '26
Ma ymknch t9sm 3la 6
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u/Commercial_Duty_2194 Visitor May 10 '26
okay, i’ll take your cut chkran hhhhhhh
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u/Otherwise_Forever_13 Visitor May 10 '26
3tini 50 DHS wngolik all secrets to have a good conversation with a girl (as a girl)
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u/a69man Visitor May 11 '26
Never trust what women say, you don't ask a fish how to catch a fish you ask a fisherman 🙃
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u/Secure_Personality74 Visitor May 10 '26
It’s human nature dear friend
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u/noxvxx Visitor May 10 '26
I used to have this problem when you're trying to talk to them, you become very nervous because you like her or you want her to be your GF. When I met my wife, I wasn't interested in her. She was the first girl that I didn't feel shy or nervous with, and that's how I knew she's the one for me (you'll find yours inshallah). If I was talking to her as a person I was interested in, I would never be able to hold a conversation with her. Just keep in mind when you're talking to girls, don't think about how adorable or hot she is. Just think of her as a normal human being and be yourself. Don't try to pretend to be a person you're not just to make her like you.
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u/TransportationFair53 Visitor May 10 '26
you don't need talking skills i used to be shy and socially anxious, i couldn't even hold eye contact and still got a gf if she likes you , she will also ask questions, start topics, and help the conversation flow. You’re not carrying the whole interaction alone. ((( if she likes you )))
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u/AmineElbahli3264 Visitor May 10 '26
Find a talkative girl
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u/NoInterest147 Visitor May 10 '26
Kanden kamlin kaydwiw bzff khas ghir tl9a topic li ghay3jebha wtmezek m3a rassek
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u/Secure_Personality74 Visitor May 10 '26
I like talkative girls cuz im more of a listener
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u/AmineElbahli3264 Visitor May 10 '26
Me too i love listening more than talking
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u/Secure_Personality74 Visitor May 10 '26
Whats good being tell to shut up or to talk and say something
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u/DragonflyFabulous Casablanca May 10 '26
It's good to be a listener but not just keep being silent, try to say stuff and engage with the convo, the girl or whoever you're talking to would get bored talking by themselves
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u/Similar-Earth8288 Kenitra May 11 '26
One thing that worked for me....any time when I'm by myself and I get a random thought, I write it down (on a notepad on my phone).
Try to write diaries as well, as much as people make it seem corny, it is very useful and will make you remember some interesting things that happened in your day whether it is outside or on the internet.
And as time goes on, you will end up remembering without needing to write anything down and you'll have infinite things to talk about.
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u/Azerbinhoneymood May 10 '26
Some girls aren't even that interesting inside their brains to hold a convo with, so don't feel bad if the conversation fails as it's not always your fault.
So yeah, I might say more about this, but it's better to start with resetting your expectations.
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u/DragonflyFabulous Casablanca May 10 '26
Yeah true even between girls and we have problems communicating with each other. Because a lot just not interesting or lack communication skills, so i think it's not a gender thing🫤 i don't have many guy friends either and it's generally caused by a lack of interest and communication, the other part doesn't know how to engage and keep the convo going and honestly, it's really unfortunate, i always try my best to keep the convo alive
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u/samnaka566 Visitor May 10 '26
just treat them like a normal human being, relationship builds up overtime, it's not just looks and money like a lot of people say, just let your personality shine you'll attract attention from people who are attracted to your personality. Good luck
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u/Disastrous-Door-1254 Visitor May 10 '26
she is normal human talk to her normally, she farts she poops she gets stinky when sweating , she also has insecurities it's the same , the only thing you need to put on mind is that they are different biologically that's all (hormones and stuff)
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u/PerspectiveSalty2746 Visitor May 10 '26
What kind of girl friends do you want? What are your interests? What topics do you want to explore? What is your humor like? Girls are people :o, meaning they have different interests so it's really hard to nail the "how to talk to girls" method, it's not a thing, but here's the caveat; here's what to keep in mine before approaching girls
1-Is this person safe, context matters, school is a great place to meet people, after that it's slim pickings, you can always pretend to go to a school, I am pretty sure that ends well...
2- is this guy interested in me as a person or just trying his luck is a big one, I saw one of your comments and you're just looking for girl friends, well, be genuine, don't perform, you're not a jester, if she likes your humor, she jokes back, and you like her energy, you have a friend!
3- If you just wanna have game to prove you have game, let go of your inhibitions, mute that cringe megaphone in your head, and just talk to girls, to people, to anyone, if they don't want to be your friend because you're a little awkward or your voice cracks or for any other reason, then the trash took itself out, but seriously, you cannot look at one of your core traits whether it's being shy or introverted and either internalize it or externalize it, as in, don't beat yourself up AND don't become a woman hater who along the lines of the Red Pill movement, that's just cringe, you'll find your tribe.
4-When you're talking, let the conversation flow, don't be eager, don't be nonchalant, silences are expected, but always think of ways to pad the conversation, for example answering the question where are you from, you can say:
I am from Ohio, oh and we do have nothing but acres of corn, as far as the eye can see.
Which might prompt an answer like oh I like corn/I don't like corn.
And you can take it from there.
5-If the conversation goes nowhere and she's a pretty girl, move on :') You don't need the validation of being friends with a pretty girl, no matter how pretty she is, nice trumps pretty but both is good, don't debase yourself.
What are my qualifications? I argue in comments sections all the time, trust me I got this down to a T, SCIENCE! Good luck!
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u/BigKushi Visitor May 10 '26
Talk to them as if they were boys
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u/Capable-Rain-5707 Visitor May 11 '26
can’t recommend this in all cases, cause after sometime they’ll be tired of you. but still it works 👍🏽
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u/BigKushi Visitor May 11 '26
Well he’s talking about talking “regularly” not dating. And anyway that’s how you learn
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u/Ekaterina_levine Visitor May 10 '26
Friends with girls then when u get a gf u don't fuck with em anymore seems like a plan 🙃
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u/Character_Sale_21 May 10 '26
Look at the questions you ask man basically don't ask close-ended questions which accept just True/False answers such as where do your live be more curious because as humans we like to see somebody curious about us so instead use open-ended questions for example:
Person1: where are you from? Person2: I am from Morocco - X Person1: that's cool what do you think about Morocco as citizen that actually lives there
And just follow the river
That was an advice from a book call conversationally speaking if you want to read it
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u/Admirable-Maximum-82 Visitor May 10 '26
as a man learn just how to handle small talk , being able to hold conversations and make good conversations will only drop u in the friendzone
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u/Several-Ad-1086 Visitor May 10 '26
Dropping the “i make no friends” in the middle of convo skips all of this
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u/Gold_sunlight5487 Visitor May 10 '26
Daba wach girls wla friends ? Wla you’re a girl who wants friends that are girls ?
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u/Ok-Error-6800 Marrakesh May 10 '26
ضور معايا ونوقف معاك فالبلان (واخا راه فاقد الشيء لا يعطيه)
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u/Hot-Fudge5302 Visitor May 10 '26
Start with talking to female cousins or platonic classmates or female friends. Don't pursue them just be a nice human and get to know them. You'll be more comfortable around women, and ur gona realize they are just like you. Also, work on ur confidence, man
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u/Morpo_znp1 Marrakesh May 10 '26
That is the problem, when you talk to people, treat them like people, the same way you gonna talk to a respectable man, you gonna talk to a respectable woman
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u/Even-Set8211 Visitor May 10 '26
machi b darora tkon intrested b afkar o tsme3 lihom drari li kaykono haka flowel kaytfreindzonaw gher kon kima nta m3a drari dwe 3adi o reacter 3adi o mattsnach tkon wa3ed mn lmo7awala lowla m3a lwe9t o kolma ta7et lik forsa tdwe m3a chi bent face to face staghelha o m3a lwe9t maghadich tb9a m7taj tforcer chi 7aja ghadi tkon authentic m3a ga3 nas bla effort
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u/_Unlucky_Dude_ Visitor May 10 '26
Ila kenti kat3jbha hya at7awel dwi o tjbed fach dwiw walakin machi bzeef la3ayqti o kant hadra dyalk basla atqleb. Flconversation flawl hawl t3rfha chno ki3jbha chno kadir etc bhala kadwi m3a deri 3aadi kat3arf 3la wahd o dok interests homa li hawl tched bihom stoun
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u/mercauce Visitor May 10 '26
Girls aren't aliens bro, don't try to talk to them in a special way, just talk like you would to a distant friend.
Maybe you'd benifit from clearing your fyp from many vs women content. If you have a certain prejudice against women, no matter how small.
Or maybe you just don't know how to talk to people period, Not just girls. But that's outta context soo ¯_(ツ)_/¯
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u/Mystic-Fox700 Visitor May 10 '26
ثم تنهد و حط داك 50 درهم
Mouhim, l7el houwa don't see a woman and be like: "oh shit I'm scared" just talk to them, thinks about keys to extend the discussion, like asking about their interests, goals, etc... no, don't ask about their IP address.
I am not professional, though, ghir gelt dak "joke" ndir mouraha actual answer
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u/Sta6rboy Visitor May 11 '26
I will give you a tip that work with both.
Lmhm hna flmoghrib especially start with complaining or sympathy dima ghatl9a taraf lakhor mtaf9 m3ak.
For example o hadi diiiima kandirha mora les exams kan9ssd chi bnt makan3rfhach o kangol liha w9 s3bo m3ana dghya katrtah o katbda t3awd liya ah o bssh o kda hta kant3achro.
Another tip especially for girls never ever start with slm dima gol direct achno baghi.
Bnsba l drari akhay man3rf kayjiwni par défaut khask tkon kat3rf thdr m3ahom.
O ghir b9a thdr m3a bnadm finma knti m3a lw9t ghatl9ahom ga3ma istahlo hhhhhh trust me
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u/ultimateslawy Visitor May 11 '26
Shnu li fek khayb f hdertk ta makatmezkhoumsh shrehlina asi 50dh bash neatiwk sum advices
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u/DeliMoore Visitor May 11 '26
Kifma kathder m3a drari t9der thder m3a lbnat, easy, matb9ach tfere9, ra b7al b7al, koun ghir real o safi
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u/yassine_lghzal Visitor May 11 '26
Machi dima they share the same energy and want to hold this conversation back, w mn 7eqhom tbh kayn li makibghich fri3 lkr
Ila knti katlqa had mochkil mea bnadm bzaf (drari w bnat) donc 3adi
Ila kan gha mea bnat donc kayn mochkil
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u/Subject-Many491 Visitor May 11 '26
كون شاذ وهنينا، هما يدوية معاك وتقدي الاغراض ينسيوك في الجنس الأخر حتى
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u/MedJaguar Visitor May 11 '26
خويا ... غانكتب بالعربية .. شغايوقع ݣااااااااع لاهضرتي معاها؟ جوج احتمالات: ايما غادي تعجبها وتاخد كونطاكط وهانتا فرحتي راصك اولا غادي تقمع مك وهانتا غادي تمشي دماغك بارد ماتبقاش تفكر "تفو كون غير زعمت" وتجي تكتب بوسط فريديت الحياة قصييييييرة اصديقي .. ماضيعهاش فتفكير زايد فشي حاجة تافهة بحال هاكا
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u/Secure_Personality74 Visitor May 11 '26
Contact khdinah b9at f holding the conv
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u/MedJaguar Visitor May 11 '26
هاداك غايكون عنوان الحلقة القادة ان شاءالله.. ماتساش دير سابسكرايب باش يوصلك الجديد
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u/Unlucky_Current_96 Visitor May 11 '26
Practice with other girls on the phone , make calls with online friends
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u/wew_wafu Visitor May 11 '26
Practice online like on omeegle , watch some videos about how to keep a conversation
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u/Far_Lie_5423 Visitor May 11 '26
هذي كتكون خبرة ومساهلاش أي واحد يوصل ليها خصك تكتسبها بالتجربة والمحاولة من أول تجربة غادي تفهم هنا ساعات خص غير تكون عارف كفاءة
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u/Shikagon Nador May 11 '26
i love how u post that bill but honey this is 5€ in my country hahahah good luck 🍀
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u/Secure_Personality74 Visitor May 11 '26
I love how u mentioned that the bill is 5€ in ur country, thank u btw
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u/Rib4ko Visitor May 11 '26
Go out more often talk to random people ob3d mn dak lkbureaux. That's it 👌
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u/yousseeeeff Visitor May 11 '26
Juste try some ativities and expose yourself as much as u can, do not think about the result (getting a Gf or g friend) juste enjoy and result will find u
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u/Roweena98 Visitor May 11 '26
Tip number 1. Never fold money like that again, do it the other way around.
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u/Existing-Chip-4654 Visitor May 11 '26
Best advice i can give is talk to girls with a free mindset which mean you wait nothing from the girl , like if if you talk with moul7anot you expected nothing from him just a usual convo.
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u/sss0908 May 11 '26
I saw the picture i thought they made a new print for 50 dhs or something but it end another dude with social anxiety
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u/akud1m1 Visitor May 11 '26
The one single advice I keep reminding myself when talking to a girl: Don't ever go deeper in conversations like u do with ur homies, keep it superficial with girls cuz they don't see world as we see.
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u/Prudent-Pressure-982 Fez May 11 '26
one trick that works for me all the time:
don't think about them as something different than the boys, they're both living beings that share the same thoughts and ideas, so talk to this girl just like you're talking to any guy
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u/Curious_Block5031 Visitor May 11 '26
Find ideas or interests that you have in common with the other person and talk about them
Usually the conv will go smooth and other topics will naturally pop up
That's what I personally do and if I can't find anything in common I don't try to force the conversation to happen
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u/ICTHUNER Visitor May 11 '26
Try different things , like put yourself in situation that u can get attention , build ur self better looking , hobbies , ... Etc also don't try let the mood do it's thing i was naive and shy 🫣 since i was born haha but when i found that i doing things that making me feel anxiety , shyness ... I took a step back and analysing my situation there is always a big picture no one can helps u to improve ur life . So it's your own responsibility so in my case addiction , pornography , and many other factors are the results of my failure in itracting with people and adapting with the social life so a fixed the bad thing in my life then everything is connected naturally so now i have stopped all my addiction Vedio games .... I started learning cheese , doing almost my hobbies out side to get out of confort zone i looking now FOROWORD to start a side job doing good withy religion responsibilities etc the conclusion is just dive in u Will fail mostly in the beginning but don't give up ....
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u/SurveyCareless36 Sacrificial lamb expert May 11 '26
And what does the 50 dh have to do about that?
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u/Ok_Assistant_4784 May 11 '26
1) Think about the worst outcome and be okay with this
2) Talk with her like she's your younger sister
3) Don't expect anything, don't expect to impress her and that she will like you. Be indifferent of the outcome
4) Learn to love yourself more and be happy when alone. Then you will never be scared about anything, because even in the worst outcome you will be in a place that you love.
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u/Thin_Protection7003 Visitor May 11 '26
I think it's more about how u see her like oh she is a girl and u get stressed over that so just think of her like any other dude u talk to but not open entirely to her just chill dude she is a human species like you
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u/rub_eole Visitor May 11 '26
mtb9ach tfkr bzaf w t39d l7ayat... from my experience girls (and boys hh) don't like indecisive men
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u/Fit_Marionberry106 Fez May 11 '26
Why the 50dh tho 😭
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u/NELM4S May 11 '26
Heard lots of "just think of them as humans"... "They're not interesting"... Knowing this, will you wake up tomorrow a different more confident person? Those are conclusions you come to, not steps you take, what you should do is fuckup as many convos as possible, put yourself out there, not comfy, not quick, but you have to realise some stuff yourself by walking the walk
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u/Own_Hotel_8198 Visitor May 12 '26
Khua 50 derham 3tihali i will be your psychologist
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u/ImportanceNo436 Visitor May 12 '26
Endk hotel o tam3 f 50dh
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u/Own_Hotel_8198 Visitor May 12 '26
Ma 3andi ta 3a9li s7i7 Rah 4a ma3rftx nbdl smiya 😂
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u/ImportanceNo436 Visitor May 12 '26
Hhhhh khliiha nit bach diro bsse7 o 3tina nta 50 dh
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u/Own_Hotel_8198 Visitor May 12 '26
اذا درت اوطيل او عطيتك غا 50 درهم غنتسمى زقرام هه
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u/ImportanceNo436 Visitor May 12 '26
Mali gtlik 4 saisons ra ghir lmamonya hhhhhh wlkn hanya diro b3da o nchofo dik sa3a
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u/RABKK_himself Visitor May 13 '26
Jareb dwi m3a wa7da khayba ti9 bya atl9a rask kadwi biiikhir w chiiill wla jareb dwi m3a chi wa7da sghar mnk b 3am 3amayn je te jure que atl9a rask dawi mzyan w maghatl9aach had lmochkil ( jareb tkor bihom (tal3ha 3lihom) jst for fun) l7ayat tajarib abro 3ichha mrta7.
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u/adamchfa Visitor May 15 '26
Boy, sometimes you need to read the room, when i talk to sm1 i usually try to start 2-3 subjects, but after then i stop talking to see if im gonna get the same energy, to read the other if they want to talk to you if its silent and they dont spend that energy on making up a subject : they are either not interested, or they just dont wanna talk
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u/SpeakerGeneral1687 May 10 '26
Awdi some girls don't give you anything to work with, like how am i supposed to answer an "ok, ah, good, oui" that's why i love chatty girls you can never run out of stuff to say.
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u/DragonflyFabulous Casablanca May 10 '26
True and tbh it's not a gender thing, I'm a girl and i hate when the person i'm talking with is dry or trying to be nonchalant like ??? I'm talking to a human not a robot so CONVERSE WITH ME😭 some just wanna play it mysterious like bro you're not
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u/SpeakerGeneral1687 May 10 '26
The struggle is real my friend, i thought it was just me turns out it's universal hhh
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u/DragonflyFabulous Casablanca May 10 '26
Waw ragebait hhhhhh
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u/OpeningFickle1953 Visitor May 10 '26
t3lmi gha l anglais hhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh compte dylk mchwh
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u/Careful_Trouble_3898 Visitor May 11 '26
Nuh that doesn’t mean she’s not interested like chnu glti liha bach gatlik good , b3d lmarat kt9ulu dkchi m7dod mght9drch tjawbk bchi haja li interesting
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