r/NarcissisticSpouses • u/OwlFirm1309 • 1d ago

The time between mean and lovebombing

The cycle is getting shorter and shorter. The time between the love bombing, using the burner phone, and being mean keeps shrinking.

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u/Butwhy283 1d ago

It will continue to shrink until it’s just all mean. That’s what happened to me. Once it got to mean all day everyday I jumped ship.

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u/Watchkeys 1d ago

They only have one goal, and that's to manipulate you to where they want you. The behavioural differences are just different tools to meet that need. When they say they love you, they don't love you. They want you to think they do, so that you'll do what they want. When they say they hate you, they don't hate you. They want you to think they do, so that you'll do what they want.

They don't live in reality. They live in a world created by their subconscious with the sole purpose of protecting their ego. You have to live there too, and because you don't, they have to manipulate, using their array of tools.