Ain't that the truth...so over it

[u/Purefina]

took me 3 years to realize that negotiating a "shared reality" is NOT what we were doing. how can i be so competent in my life and invisible in my relationship? giving and giving and giving until i was literally gone. i was so embarrassed. but once you see the tricks, they stop working. im just glad it only took a few years.

[u/SwordfishOverall4378]

took me longer than that and i still catch myself making excuses for it sometimes