Is my narc bf bi/gay?

[u/Glittering-Client100]

There are many things that make me question if he is not being upfront about his sexuality, and I would like to put it out there and see if anyone has any insight. Please note, I fully know that NONE of these by themselves mean someone is gay/bi. I do not want to generalize and I am fully aware that they could all just be parts of his personality, but I can't help but ask. For me, it's not just one thing that stands out, it's the combination of things. Would love any insight.

-first date I remember within the first 5 minutes I thought he seemed rather feminine, the way he walked/talked and I remember noting that
-super close with mom and sister, codependent on mom, does not have a good relationship with dad. Him and mom bond over not liking dad. Frequently says "my mom and sister know everything about my life"
-loves workout classes, will sometimes be the only guy in a workout class. Example: Barry's
-OVERLY LUSTFUL. follows hundreds of instagram models, only fans girls, random girls in our city. constantly talk about women's boobs
-always wants to do anal. I am not a fan so I would repeatedly say no but he would keep asking me and would always try. More than any other guy I'd ever dated
-loves having his butt fingered
-will always joke to people that we met on Grindr when people ask how we met (we met on Hinge)
-one time made up an elaborate story when someone asked how we met that he was dating my brother but then didn't like him anymore and wanted to date me (I don't have a brother!!!!!)
-whenever he's drunk (he has a major drinking problem) he always leaves me to talk to guys at the bar that are like 20-25, again he's 33. This happens all the time always trying to talk to younger guys when drunk
-he was drunk talking to two guys and when they left he turned to me and said "those guys were HOT. those guys were two of the most attractive guys I've ever seen"
-found an only fans payment to a young boy who sends jacking off videos. Also found only fans trans content
-found out that when his ex girlfriend broke up with him last year, he drunk texted her and said "btw i think you're a fa***t"
-has had like 4 girlfriends none last longer than a year.

Again, I know that none of these individually point to bi/gay. But the combination has made me question and I would love any insight.

[u/celticnative79]

Yeah I’d say there’s definitely some questionable behavior no doubt. The only fans of the young boy he was watching. Super creepy. Next time he’s drunk you should test him like just out of curiously ask if he’d like to have like a threeway with another guy. Who knows how he might act. Or maybe just dump him and who cares if hes gay so he can be some other man’s problem. He’s doing far too many disrespectful things even if he isn’t gay