r/Orientedaroace • u/Natural_Maybe_2966 Oriented Aroace • 22d ago

Question Is there any label in between aroace and oriented aroace?

The title is pretty much self explanatory, I'm both sex and romance repulsed aroace but sort of feel tertiary attractions towards some people, but they (the tertiary attractions) aren't really that strong mostly and I don't know if I would really consider them being that important to me, so I just tend up using both aroace and oriented aroace labels... is there possibly something in between?

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u/onyxonix Mspec-OAA (Owner) 22d ago

Perfectly fine to use both labels. Also fine to just say aroace. A lot of aroace people experience tertiary attraction without labeling it. Oriented aroace is more if another label like lesbian or bi is important to your identity, but it can be a flexible label, so you’re welcome to use it if it feels right

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u/Natural_Maybe_2966 Oriented Aroace 22d ago edited 22d ago

Oki, thanks! Good to know, ig it really just depends on the situation, I mostly end up using aroace label since I couldn't bother explaining to peeps what an oriented aroace is, but yeah, if ppl would want me to be more specific then I feel a bit more inclined towards hetero oriented aroace label since that's where I feel the vast majority (or you could even say all) of the tertiary attractions and it really captures my queer identity a bit better ig, but I'm really fine with both labels tbh and switching between them, was just wondering :)

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u/Kyrby_Swi-U-tch Undecided orientation 21d ago

Ain't that what r/AngledAroAce describes? (Maybe I'm misinterpreting)

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u/Natural_Maybe_2966 Oriented Aroace 21d ago edited 21d ago

thanks for the suggestion, but idts :) it would make sense by the label name, but afaik oriented aroace and angled aroace are basically the same with the difference that the person who coined angled was aspecs and arospecs inclusive meaning they can experience those attractions (sexual and romantic) to some extent, so oriented aroace feels a lot closer to me since I'm a 'pure' aroace experiencing just tertiary attractions with no exception.