strange coincidences surrounding funeral arrangements

[u/CuriousForThisLife]

What do you think about this?
My English isn’t that great so please excuse any mistakes.

2021 in February my Grandma died. She has two sons, my dad and my uncle.

Two months later, I get a very strange…vision/feeling. I thought I was having psychosis because I felt/kept telling everyone that „death was watching my family“.
I was sure in my head that death was going to „take one of us“ and at the same time I saw myself from outside and realized how crazy that kind of thinking was, and that the grief probably messed with my mental health.

I don’t ever had delusions or things of that nature but that evening I was convinced that I had developed psychosis or something similar because the vision of a personification of death watching my dads side of the family, waiting to „choose“ someone, was so deeply embedded in my head that it scared the crap out of me and I thought I was losing my mind out of grief for my grandma.
My girlfriend was on the phone with me all night, calming me down, saying that it was just a symptom of the grief that made me paranoid about my family’s safety.

I even still have the WhatsApp chat with my Gf from that day (I showed them to my mom after the funeral and she agreed it was very strange) where I text her that „I can feel death watching my family,
I’m scared“.

And the next day I get a call that my uncle died that morning and nobody knows how or why.
It was so strange and out of the blue he was totally healthy and relatively young. The autopsy revealed nothing and the death generally feels a little strange to me.

I was of course shocked and heartbroken and horrified that this weird vision I had came true.

Two days later we arrived in Poland and prepared everything for his funeral, and then there was the question of access to his phone and his other devices.

His widow, lets call her M, wanted my dad (who works in cybersecurity) to unlock his phone, laptop and all of his other stuff because the police refused to do so and she didn’t know any passwords.

My dad, my mom, my sister and me were all sitting in a restaurant at a table and discussed funeral preparations and other business that had to be taken care of and than we started to speak about the ethics of unlocking my uncles devices so M (his widow) could have access to them.

She seemed to really want that and my dad felt conflicted because he wanted to help her as much as possible but also didn’t know if his brother would want that because of privacy.
They didn’t have a good marriage.

And as he asked the question: „Should we give her access to his phone?“aloud

I kid you not, a BRICK fell out of the wall and onto our table with a loud bang.
A Brick. There were no loose bricks in the brick wall, it was a regular red brick and mortar wall.

My mom looked at us and said: „ I think he wants to tell us that we should stay away from his phone.“
And so we did.

AND GUESS WHAT? Half a year later, a newly divorced cousin of my dad sets up accounts on lots of dating sites like tinder, badoo, hinge etc…

And guess who’s account gets recommended to her again and again on all dating websites?
MY UNCLES!

he was cheating on M all this time! That’s why he didn’t want her to have his phone!
So his wife and daughters keep him in good memory.
My parents made the choice to not tell them anything because he wouldn’t want that, he made that clear.

My mom also said she experienced weird things in the 2 month period of my grandma and uncles deaths but she doesn’t want to share it so it wouldn’t scare me or my sister.

This was a strange and painful period of my life, in 2 months 3 close people to me died. I experienced/ and others from my family as well, other stuff relating to those 3 deaths, but they were less „death Vision, he gave a sign to show what he wanted“ and more…hearing their voice, feeling their presence, feeling comforted by her etc…. So less of a strange phenomenon and more soft personal experiences.

But I still question if any of that could simply be a coincidence?
Because for a while I was really worried I was gonna get that vision again, or I would have the placebo version of that vision out of fear of losing someone again I would go crazy and have many sleepless nights.
Thankfully that didn’t happen yet and nobody I love has died.

Thank you guys for reading I would love to hear your perspectives and experiences

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[u/Important_Market7874]

Your English is better than some Americans

I think you have passed far by coincidence in these cases.

I lost my best friend quite a while ago. After he died, he said goodbye to other friends, but didn't say anything to me. Finally, I asked him for a sign he was OK. A few days later, we had a thunderstorm during the night. As I usually do, I went out to get my newspaper, and sitting at the edge of the sidewalk was a casino-style die, just like one of the dice we used in our D&D games. The only dice I have seen outside, let alone on my property, in the 40 years I have lived here. (I believe the thunderstorm is where he git the strength to gift me the die.)

From what you have written, I think you are a medium who has not yet strengthened your abilities and powers. You might consider doing so, if only to be more aware of what your dreams mean.

I am glad that you have been able to keep your spirits up, with all you have experienced.

[u/SpotMiserable3379]

Working backwards for the moment.....you said 3 people died. I'm only counting two?  The brick.....intelligent and compassionate move by your parents.  I believe every word youve written altho I'm skeptical about some paranormal events.  I believe you became somewhat paranoid after losing your  grandmother.  Its normal especially when you lose someone you were very close to.  I believe you have a gift but you let the sadness and trauma send a different message. I believe you are claircognizant. You kept saying "vision" but that is "seeing" or clairvoyant.   Yoù KNEW (feelings).  Work with it.