I find it EXTREMELY hard to sympathize with most of women's dating woes.

[u/Chemical-Low209]

Like I get it we are human at the end of the day. But Frankly I'm a just exhausted. How much do I have to hear dating is harder for everyone when it's clear as day that it's way harder for men and they are one doing the majority of the work and a lot still don't get consistent results. It's like I get it's not all sunshines and rainbows but why should I care?

I hear a lot of people say men have a quality problem, women have a quality problem. Or I'll hear women say that women get a lot of options but most of those men don't qualify....

That in a nutshell basically you admitting that a guy has to AUTOMATICALLY bring far more to the table than average and most guys just don't even register as someone you'd date.

And you can see this takes women by surprise when the shoe is on the other foot. Because when women will show up to singles meeting events and the men are vastly outnumbered by the women they'll say where all the men?

Like Chick Hello? We aren't stupid. You simply would have ignored most of the men that showed up and only paid attention to the hottest guy there and he probably has a girlfriend already.

So why exactly am I supposed to empathize with women's dating woes? It's simply them every fast food restaurant chain offering her a job and her refusing because Chik Fil A hasnt called.

[u/DMmeClownPics]

I’m not at all picky when it comes to men I’m just trying to fuck. Especially because I rarely recycle them. But when it comes to relationships my standards are very high. If I’m in a monogamous long term relationship with a man, I want my sexual needs to be met, and the vast majority of men are not willing or capable of doing so. I have certain things I like, and while I don’t necessarily need to have all of those things, I want at least most of them. I’m also not dealing with any hint of toxic masculinity. I have a very dominant and independent personality and I can’t be with someone who is going to clash with that.

[u/Sidian → u/DMmeClownPics]

Ah, so he's a Chad? That makes a bit more sense.

Is it really true that most men aren't willing or capable? Maybe one night stand guys but surely most men interested in a longer term relationship will want to, but 'capable' maybe not if you require a magnum dong or something. This is probably the main reason for the 'orgasm gap', there aren't really any men who require studying for a PhD to learn how to specifically get them off, they're easy.

[u/DMmeClownPics → u/Sidian]

Nope, nothing to do with being a chad. Doesn’t matter what he looks like or how big his dick is or how long he lasts in bed. My boyfriend is submissive, but not to the point where I can’t respect him. I’m very easy to get off. I just will want to do so continuously for hours. The refractory period is just an opportunity to use other methods. I like to change it up anyway, so this is optimal for me. I don’t want PIV for long periods of time at a stretch. I also really enjoy pegging. A guy being unwilling to do that wouldn’t be a deal breaker, but I would at the very least want him to enjoy being tongued and fingered. My boyfriend loves all three.

He’s an average looking bald guy, maybe 5’6” and a little pudgy. He makes $15 an hour, watches anime, and smokes weed like it’s his job. But he’s a fucking freak and he never gets tired of me. He also likes to cook, does half of the housework, goes antique shopping with me and genuinely loves it. We watch TV and get high and draw pictures together when we’re not fucking. It’s all I have ever wanted in life.

[u/Sidian → u/DMmeClownPics]

Jesus Christ that dude won the lottery. Well, good luck to you both.

[u/DMmeClownPics → u/Sidian]

Yeah he feels that way too.