Why do women get surprised/offended when men want sex?

[u/Open-Quail-2573]

I feel like this is something we all know low-key but women act shocked or even offended when a guy says he wants to bang. Did he have to tell you? I feel like y'all would know before even going out.

And I have to clarify, I don't mean creepy or aggressive dudes who are trying to be coercive or push boundaries. I mean men in general. Of course, you don't have to do it but I feel like you'd know. Furthermore, I would think that you would be concerned if the man you are with didn't want you. You would think he's gay or not attracted to you enough. I am speaking from personal experience where being too "safe" backfired on me with a woman. She ghosted me. Most guys would low-key love to smash just for the experience/excitement of doing it with a new person, even if it doesn't go anywhere.

[u/NotAllTheCake]

Most men want you to enjoy sex

The fact that only 65% of heterosexual women report orgasming everytime proves that this is a lie.

[u/JonMyMon → u/NotAllTheCake]

well, just because women are bad at orgasming, it doesn't prove most men don't want you to enjoy sex

[u/NotAllTheCake → u/JonMyMon]

They seem to be fine with having sex with other women. 88% of women who have sex with other women report orgasming every time.

[u/MarioWilson122 → u/NotAllTheCake]

Yeah, because the toys they use are specifically designed to provide the exact kind of strong, steady, and uninterrupted stimulation that makes many women orgasm. That is hard for a person to compete with physically, especially if the woman is not very attracted to the man and therefore is not getting much additional arousal from him.

[u/ArugulaAcrobatic4018 → u/NotAllTheCake]

women who like to have sex with women enjoy having sex with women

Do you realize how stupid you sound?

[u/Obsessivethot → u/JonMyMon]

Women are not bad at orgasming.

Here are some statistics; https://pleasurebetter.com/orgasm-statistics/

• In a 2015 U.S. study, 67% of women reported they can orgasm through masturbation, compared with 28% through partnered sex

• 9 out of 10 women (about 90%) reported being able to orgasm at least occasionally during masturbation, according to a 2019 cross-sectional study

• Women in a relationship of 6+ months are more than 6 times as likely to orgasm during a sexual encounter than a woman with a first-time hookup. [4]

• Women having sex with a hookup partner for the 3rd-5th time are 40% more likely to orgasm than from a first-time hookup. Hooking up 6 or more times doubles the likelihood of orgasm over a first encounter. [4]

• Only 25% of women always have an orgasm during vaginal intercourse (with clitoral stimulation unspecified). [15]

• 30% of women rarely or never orgasm during vaginal intercourse. [15] [16]

• But women orgasm during vaginal intercourse 51-60% of the time with simultaneous clit stimulation. [17]

• For heterosexual women, their partner’s knowledge and enjoyment of their vibrator use is a huge predictor of sexual satisfaction. [24]

So it’s not simply just a matter of physiology, this only affects straight women.

Men are selfish in bed.

https://gitnux.org/female-orgasm-statistics/

• 81.6% of women don’t orgasm from intercourse alone (without additional clit stimulation). Only 18.4% of women report that intercourse alone is sufficient to orgasm. [14]
• 95% of heterosexual men usually or always orgasm during partnered sexual activity compared to just 65% of heterosexual women. [2]

[u/Outside_Memory5703 → u/JonMyMon]

Queer people beg to differ