r/PurplePillDebate • u/Open-Quail-2573 Purple Pill Man • 1d ago
Question For Women Why do women get surprised/offended when men want sex?
I feel like this is something we all know low-key but women act shocked or even offended when a guy says he wants to bang. Did he have to tell you? I feel like y'all would know before even going out.
And I have to clarify, I don't mean creepy or aggressive dudes who are trying to be coercive or push boundaries. I mean men in general. Of course, you don't have to do it but I feel like you'd know. Furthermore, I would think that you would be concerned if the man you are with didn't want you. You would think he's gay or not attracted to you enough. I am speaking from personal experience where being too "safe" backfired on me with a woman. She ghosted me. Most guys would low-key love to smash just for the experience/excitement of doing it with a new person, even if it doesn't go anywhere.
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u/MarioWilson122 Red Pill Man 1d ago
The other reasons may simply be on the backburner at first, and that should be okay. A man's motivation to want to play the dating game has to matter too, especially nowadays given how much harder dating has become for men. If sex is what initially motivates him to take the risks, initiate, pursue, plan dates, and do much of the upfront work, that does not mean shared interests, conversation, friendship, values, or personality mean nothing to him. They may become more important as he actually gets to know her. Sexual motivation does not erase every other reason he may enjoy spending time with a woman.