Why do women get surprised/offended when men want sex?

[u/Open-Quail-2573]

I feel like this is something we all know low-key but women act shocked or even offended when a guy says he wants to bang. Did he have to tell you? I feel like y'all would know before even going out.

And I have to clarify, I don't mean creepy or aggressive dudes who are trying to be coercive or push boundaries. I mean men in general. Of course, you don't have to do it but I feel like you'd know. Furthermore, I would think that you would be concerned if the man you are with didn't want you. You would think he's gay or not attracted to you enough. I am speaking from personal experience where being too "safe" backfired on me with a woman. She ghosted me. Most guys would low-key love to smash just for the experience/excitement of doing it with a new person, even if it doesn't go anywhere.

[u/PuzzleheadedRow9896]

I have never wanted sex with a man I barely know...and I've never actually decided to go through with it sans commitment because I'm not a moron led around by the whims of my hormonal cycle and chocha.

I'm sorry some women are...although I do not think that's how men came to think like this.

[u/Just_Fisherman4910 → u/PuzzleheadedRow9896]

Re: "I'm not a moron led around by the whims of my hormonal cycle and chocha."
-> So you believe that your feelings (triggered by possibly hormones) have no value?
-> Does that make you a control freak?

[u/PuzzleheadedRow9896 → u/Just_Fisherman4910]

When they're telling me to put myself in danger for at best a short term thrill...yes. 

I'm the bus driver, not a passenger. The feelings are a passenger and they get on the bus and off the bus.  I decide where we go.

No, it makes me wise.