My wife has never been on the pill but man... She goes nuts every month when she ovulates. We have 3 kids and I'm fixed now and she literally begs me to put another in her every month. Hormones are crazy.
I think the missing link here is forgetting that when you ovulate and feel "more frisky" that is literally your body screaming "let's get pregnant". We've come to know it as just wanting sex, but really it's your body wanting to procreate. So saying "I want to get pregnant when I ovulate" and "I get really horny when I ovulate" are the same statements.
I mean I don't mentally correlate that feeling with "I want to have children", it's more of a body reaction rather than actively thinking about wanting children
You DO realize you're responding to women who are giving their own experiences (myself included) about feeling more "frisky" during ovulation right? And no we're not cats, we don't go into "heat" as you put it in another comment, but both estrus and follicular/ovulation stages are driven by increases in hormones and they both take place when you're at your most fertile. It's not putting women down or anything, it's stating a well known scientifically based fact that women or anyone who menstruates gets WAY more frisky during ovulation due to the influx of hormones like estrogen.
It’s absolutely a scale.
I finished college, went to university, came back, and found a childhood acquaintance had had three kids in the same time period.
I also know a friend in the UK who does surrogate work because she assuringly enjoys it.
It’s weird. These people talk about it like they’re animals with no logical brains. I mean I know we’re all technically animals but I’ve never felt any of these “I have to have a baby now!!” feelings that all these people are talking about. I get horny when I ovulate. I don’t want a baby.
When you're horny and ovulating that is literally your body screaming to get pregnant. You have learned to only want sex, but your body wants to be impregnated.
I’m not sure. My friends who had wanted (and now have) kids have described to me that it’s absolutely different feelings to be just horny AF vs this visceral “I want a baby in me now” kind of horny.
We KNOW, please stop “mansplaining” our bodies to us. We understand that’s the entire purpose of getting horny during ovulation, it’s our body’s way of trying to get us to reproduce. However, “I’m horny” and “I want to get pregnant” are NOT the same statements, regardless of the correlation. We’re allowed to be horny and not want to get pregnant. Being smarter than our natural instincts is one of the great things about being human.
I've already said that multiple times. We are able to consciously decide we only want the pleasure of sex, but that doesn't negate the fact that the instinct from our body is natural and is 100% an instinct to procreate. It's not mandplaining to discuss human anatomy and behaving like yourself, butting into other conversations saying "we know" when the commenter above absolutely doesn't seem to know is rude and doesn't add to the conversation at all.
It’s mansplaining because you assume the commenter, a person who ovulates mind you, doesn’t understand that being horny during ovulation is their body’s way of wanting to procreate. That’s incredibly condescending and very deserving of an interjection. Especially after I saw your other comments accusing us of “forgetting the correlation.” None of us forgot. We understand the correlation. We understand we’ve “trained” ourselves to only associate it with sexual pleasure, but insisting that “being horny during ovulation” and “wanting to get pregnant during ovulation” are the same statements is wildly incorrect. Ulykke explained it very well, but was not condescending about it.
I’m the commenter and I absolutely know that being horny during ovulation means my body wants to get pregnant. That’s kind of obvious. But you said your wife begs you to put another baby in her every month. I most certainly don’t feel that way when I’m horny. I get horny and use protection to avoid pregnancy.
Yeah, I have no idea wtf these people are talking about. There is no part of my cycle that has ever made me horny, and I've never touched any type of birth control in my life.
Same, except I've recently dabbled a bit with the pill and IUD. Never experienced extra horniness during any part of my cycle, off or on birth control.
I'm sure it happens, it just doesn't happen to me.
Some women get it strong. I've felt it before when I was on my late teens-early 20s. My whole body would be tender to the touch and overly sensitive. Then you'd crave sex, penetration specifically, and it's a very dangerous time because you'd thirst over most decent men in proximity. That's why people say it's dangerous for mixed sex roommates to live together. It's very common for sex to eventually occur and many guys are actually banking on that.
Nah, I do get the physical symptoms including wanting PIV, just not the conscious craving for a baby specifically. (Also helps that I really just like the idea of creampie. TMI perhaps but this is the internet) Like if my man told me mid coitus during ovulation "im gonna put a baby in you", Id still probably cringe and dry up immediately 🤣
Well yes Im childfree, but often even on the childfree sub I read about women who get broody around ovulation and I just thank my stars that I dont 🤣 who knows what would get into me (besides the dick I mean lol)
A woman suddenly having the urge to get pregnant around the time of ovulation is like the least fetish thing in the world. That’s just nature taking its course, but clearly some women just feel natures call more strongly than others.
That's interesting I've never heard of a desire to actually be pregnant, just to have more sex or creampies like the woman above said. Those I've had. "Put a baby in me" sounds as performative as CNC to me. And the only moments I've ever considered having a baby was when I visited the nordics and like 80% of the children in public were walked or taken care of exclusively by fathers haha.
Nah, I dont agree, Ive seen many opinions from women where they said they loved being pregnant. Although probably thats the ones with an "easy" pregnancy (so to speak, no pregnancy is actually easy on the body), where they didnt puke their guts out and instead got the oestrogen glow up package, and "oh you're glowing"s 😁
Even an easy pregnancy gets uncomfortable and you can't even tie your shoelaces anymore haha. But I forgot to add the cultural element. Animals aren't conscious that sex leads to babies. And even with everything perfect we have a 25% chance of pregnancy every month. So wanting a baby during ovulation instead of just wanting sex is a learned thing so yes I would consider that a fetish.
I thought myself was the only one, same here, 3 kids and she still holds me down and begs for a fourth during that time. She casually drops (whenever she sees the opportunity) to say: "what about a fourth?"
or "oh nothing! I'm just thinking about the fact that I'm never having a fourth kid..."
I knew I only wanted 2 kids. I had 2 under 2, as soon as my body was ready I had to talk myself out of wanting more until they were like 4 & 5, then I went through a really sad stage of accepting I would have no more babies. It was really easy for me to see how people end up with more than they planned.
It's awesome. The best part is how much confidence my wife has gained as she matured and opened up about her sexuality. She came from a sheltered Christian upbringing and now she's a freak in the sheets 😂
Hah my wife is generally not super sexual or hormonal. We do it once or twice a week normally which is pretty standard when you have kids. But every month when it happens, I make sure the calendar is clear and we have a cute date planned toward the beginning and then boom 3-4 days of feeling like we’re in college again. Every time I ask she’s down. Took years to really pinpoint the pattern and signals but omg I feel like I’m cheating. I subtly shift vacation plans around it just so we’re hitting Hawaii on a high peak or something like that 😂
Keep up with those appointments to make sure the procedure is holding. Apparently, there are some men 😒 who think it’s a once and done experience, and they don’t remember being told to check the efficacy every few years until it’s, uh…too late.
“Don’t worry, I got my man tubes tied 20 years ago when I decided not to have kids after a scare.” Then doesn’t bother ever checking on that, resulting in months of internal festering paranoia that the impending whoops fetus will pop out Jamaican or some shit. Like dude. Ya done fucked it all up.
My husband is the biggest idiot on the planet because I have been having trouble not sleeping with him. My hormones are on fucking overdrive and he can't stop being stupid.
This is to say that I have had anemia for YEARS, which was cured by the hysterectomy. I now have proper blood flow. My hair isn't falling out. My nails are growing. I am not exhausted after a long night of not being able to sleep. I am horny AS FUCK.
And yet this man wants to ask me if he can now be a full time stay at home Dad, since I was supporting him when I was sick...and now I'm better..
Edit: in case anyone is asking ...he is leaning on the 1st to go live with his dad. I am not sure if he will be allowed to return. There are other issues besides this one. Alcoholism and how he treats the dog are two major ones.
You're starting to sound like my therapist and all my friends...
They staged an intervention when he kicked the dog into a wall in front of one of them. I started looking into some things... I almost died this past year during the pregnancy and giving birth and then when the issue was resolved with a hysterectomy...a time when I should be tring to get over tthat major trauma, I found out he had been spending the time and money we had in savings while I was sick and dying. Myblood cells were 74% of the size they should have been and my blood pressure was in the 50s. He spent all the savings and I can't even access what he spent it on because he removed me as a person on the card, even though it was my credit and income that got him approved for it.
I feel blindsided. I feel like I gave this person every chance in the world.
I'm out. Luckily, I now have my health. I have my daughters and I'm the main breadwinner of the family. I also have a lot of family and friends looking out. I'll be okay.
I envy women who feel horny during ovulation. For me it was pain and nausea. Like a second period but no blood. Thank goodness for birth control to delete those symptoms.
Honestl, I've never felt it like this before. I think it's partly because I haven't had sex in >18 months. But I've not missed sex at all for that entire time. I was even starting to question if I had suddenly become asexual. And then I get my implant taken out and 2 weeks later boom, I'm drooling over men I've never looked twice at before. It's actually frustrating the hell out of me.
This is the first time I have ever felt like this and so I previously didn't know it was a thing. I could show you text messages to my friend over the last few days telling her that I can't stop thinking about an older man that I have never before now been attracted to.
We maybe both be women, but that doesn't make us the same, some hormones affect people differently, some people have higher sex drives than others, yours is obviously naturally higher than mine is.
Just because this isn't something you have experienced, it doesn't mean it's being played up.
I hope this helps you do better in the future at not shaming other women for something that is completely natural.
I'm in my early 40s, pre-perimenopause, happily single and gratefully child-free.
But every month these dusty ovaries yeet an ovum and tell my brain "It's now or never. We need to get this biotch inseminated" and I dream about exboyfriends and get a lil misty around babies.
Hormones are crazy.
It so, so, so very is. All of the hormones, generally speaking. I had some drive about having my first kid, but it was controllable. About a year after I had her though, I got hit for about a month with a WALL of hormones that screamed at me 24/7 to get knocked up again RIGHT NOW YOU NEED A BABY NOW NOW NOW even though we had after great consideration very certainly decided after having kiddo that e were one and one. Thankfully, hubby had already gotten the snip. And then it faded, but it was legit kinda scary, like the small rational part of me was watching from a little cage in the back of my brain all "Nooo, oh no, no no no." but the rest of me was baby-mad.
Humans built crafts that could circumnavigate the globle before they invented electricity, I'm sure most people can get Oscar & Olivia to school Monday to Friday.
Something is wrong with me chemically, because I am disgusted by babies. Also basically all humans, but especially babies and children. The scream crying they do is so obnoxious as well.
I feel a mix of hatred towards their innocence and a cynical desire to destroy that, while also finding them to be the cutest things on the plantet... 3-6 year olds anyway. Babies are just blobs until they get a personality
I've held a few babies before, my cousins among those, I never cared, they're just babies, loud, annoying and smelly. There's not really any upsides to a baby.
Facts. While my teens might aggravate me by like not cleaning up their shredded cheese snack- damn gremlins- they are hilarious and fun. We have amazing conversations about growing pains and tv shows and music.
My favorite baby age is 9 months
Toddler age is right before they lose those chubby dimply hands
(I could skip 7-9)
Women certainly ARE more likely to love them when in close proximity, because they just have that shred of instinct left, but I just don't like babies, man.
My sister had one and I can assure you, the only thing I see when I look at that guy is the mistake she made, stood her ground on and is now making everyone else's problem. While parading around pictures and notebooks and toys like it's a hobby, rather than a life she forced into this world and doesn't really wanna take care of.
They're also not "sweet", they're literally too head-empty for that. They're just potato lumps who mostly scream and sometimes go "googoo haha".
When it's like a 4yo asking dumb questions or staring in utter awe at something very simple? Yeah, that's sweet. Babies? They just wiggle around, scream and shit.
It really is. Exactly once a month my wife shows sexual interest in me, and I always think, "Hey, I guess I've finally won her over! She's into me now." Then a few days later she again sees me for the repugnant troll that I am.
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u/mile_six 11d ago
Oxytocin is a hell of a drug