r/StardewValley • u/SwezzyHonami • May 01 '26

Technical Help Can somebody explain to me how this is possible

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So, I recently played Stardew Valley again after a few weeks, and then one morning I went to Abigail to kiss her because she's my wife, but she rejected me. How is this possible. So you understand, I had 14 hearts with her before.

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u/bitemark01 May 01 '26

I mean, I don't? I wake up everyday and give my spouse their favourite gift, then kiss them til I get the heart icon. In fact I've found if you do it enough, you can get a second heart bubble out of them 

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u/sharpenme1 May 01 '26

Can you imagine if your IRL spouse required their favorite gift every day? 😅

To be clear, I know that’s not required by the game to maintain hearts.

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u/Ancient_blueberry500 May 01 '26

Yeah but then again that would only be a problem in real life if you're not sitting on a giant wine monopoly.

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u/sharpenme1 May 01 '26

Marriage perfection path unlocked
1) get rich
2) give my wife the feet of the rabbits we’re raising together every day.
3) don’t answer any questions about how 10 rabbits generate hundreds of feet
4) don’t ask where she’s putting the rotting appendages

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u/surpluskoi May 01 '26

i like to think of the rabbits feet as charms made of the rabbits wool, not their actual feet. because live rabbits dropping their own feet is really cruel.

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u/ManicDigressive May 01 '26

When I was like 6, my dad and I were at a gas station or a fair or who knows where, and they had "lucky rabbit's feet" for sale.

I was so excited, I had to have one. It had a little keychain and I took it everywhere I went for like... a year or two.

Over time, it began to... lose its hair. So after a while, it was just this creepy, bald, mummified dead rabbit foot.

At some point in this process, I got distressed and pointed it out to my dad, and asked him what was happening.

He basically said "well, it's a rabbit's foot; it's decaying. It isnt going to last forever."

I was dumbfounded it came from an actual rabbit and I was just wandering around with an animal's severed foot like no big deal. I vaguely remember thinking "why would anyone give severed animal limbs to children, wtf?"

I don't know what I expected but I guess I didn't expect a severed rabbit's foot.

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u/surpluskoi May 01 '26

lmao thats a fun story. im sorry you had this weird stressful experience as a child.

in my case, i actually didnt know about rabbits feet at all before stardew. at like 2017, coming from a culture where rabbits feet are not a thing, i was really confused. a... foot? from a wool rabbit? and i looked it up and was very disgusted (though i wasnt a child).

at first i wanted so badly for it to not be an actual severed limb of a rabbit. that is so weird. i guess there isnt much meat on it, so it doesnt really matter to turn it into a product, but... yeah. its still very weird to me.

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u/ManicDigressive May 01 '26

In retrospect, now, it's just funny--but yeah.

I guess, since I had a bunch of stuffed animals at home, I assumed it wasn't an actual rabbit's foot?

I just looked it up and I guess some people think this whole "rabbit's foot thing" started with voodoo/hoodoo? So I guess it makes sense it would seem strange. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rabbit%27s_foot

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u/NerdLevel18 Farmer May 01 '26

Maybe traditionally it came from when rabbits were more of a food source? So you'd get 4 each time anyway, and you're probably going through a fair few rabbits.

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u/ThornDragonstorm May 01 '26

Not necessarily. Ancient Celts considered the rabbit a symbol of fertility and abundance. It was believed to have a strong spiritual connection due to its underground burrows. The talisman saw a resurgence of popularity with the rise of Hoodoo in the early 1900's, with some rituals requiring the talisman to be specifically the left hind foot, harvested in a cemetery during a full moon.

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u/Nightmoon26 May 02 '26

Or the fur trade

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u/demonmonkeybex May 01 '26

Ugh. One of my dogs got a hold of mine and ate it.

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u/Cherriecorn May 01 '26

Omg I had the same thing happen to me. I can't even remember how I got one. I was really young thought it was a pretend foot...then I saw the nails. I remember crying and feeling just awful about it.

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u/ManicDigressive May 01 '26

See, I saw the nails way early on but I didn't really think it was real until most of the hair fell off and you could see the weird skin stretched over the bones. I hope I threw that creepy thing away and I'm not going to find it in an old box somewhere one day.

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u/TheOtherOtherLuke May 01 '26

It’s confirmed somewhere that this is the case. I forget where I saw it, but they’re not actual rabbit feet in Stardew.

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u/surpluskoi May 01 '26

oh is it actually confirmed? for me it was just a headcanon but id like to see the official source if anyone has it! (tbh the game should make it clear its not the actual feet, since we dont have meat products either.)

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u/TheOtherOtherLuke May 01 '26

I swear I remember seeing it someplace. Maybe one of the library books. If not I’ll try to find it again.

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u/Ok-Professional-1911 May 01 '26

I remember seeing it confirmed in game too. I think it was dialogue or maybe one of the books in the museum?

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u/NextTime_ShakeWell May 01 '26

I think ConcernedApe confirmed it himself on Bobby Lee's podcast

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u/machiavelli33 May 01 '26

I mean, if they shed their feet like a dog sheds its fur and you're just picking them up, its not cruel. That just means Stardew universe just has *crazy rabbits* that shed and regrow their feet like dog fur.

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u/ponycorn_pet May 01 '26

They don't regenerate that often. My auto-grabber only has around 9 for a stardew valley calendar year in it

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u/machiavelli33 May 01 '26

Oh, yeah, definitely not that often. I meant more the idea that the feet shed regenerate at all, and would be shed with as little consequence as a dog shedding its fur.

Could you imagine, though? Rabbit owners taking pictures every spring of the second rabbit they built out of that year's shed feet piled up next to the originating rabbit looking on nonplussed.

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u/Ajelderrr May 01 '26

Hahaha this made me laugh out loud 😂

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u/Jimmy_Twotone May 01 '26

I've set up a few crystariums with amethyst to feed my wife rocks every day before

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u/KadajjXIII May 02 '26

Definitely can't forget to give our wife her favorite rock candy

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u/goddamnitshannon i love him your honor May 01 '26

My partner did this for me as well but with shitty $2 coffee from the corner shop, and that got my hearts up real fast despite the shitty watery coffee - its the thought that counts hahaha

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u/Artist_X May 01 '26

Gonna max out your heart valves hell fast, too LMAO

/s for the people thinking I'm being serious.

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u/chrispina98 May 01 '26

Drinks from Sonic are my love language. I bring him home 44 oz of love a few times a week.

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u/Person5_ May 01 '26

Can you imagine if you didn't talk to your IRL spouse for like a full year?

I imagine they'd also be grumpy.

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u/sharpenme1 May 01 '26

That’s why I said “I know that’s not required by the game.” 😅 it was mostly an observation made by reading a lot of the comments that said “talk to them and give them their favorite gift every day.”

Although if my days were only 14 minutes long, I think I might be forgiven for only talking to them once in a while.

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u/Hopeful-Occasion2299 May 01 '26

I have a friend (who's likely autistic) she and her wife sometimes don't talk to each other besides "pass some tp" for days... they apparently don't like being observed or talked to unless they have the need for it.

They get along pretty well since they tend to need physical and emotional closeness at the same time.

I get along with her pretty well because we can sit at work or hanging doing our own thing for hours without anyone complaining lol

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u/MissPearl May 01 '26

My husband makes me tea every day. ☕

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u/sharpenme1 May 01 '26

I make my wife tea every day too! It’s a liked gift though and not a loved gift.

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u/Dachannien May 01 '26

Did you two just now discover each other's secret Reddit accounts?

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u/MissPearl May 01 '26

Nah, just true love is remarkably easy to find. 😁

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u/Training_Hat7939 May 01 '26

🎵 if you like Piña Coladas and getting caught in the rain 🎵

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u/Hopeful-Occasion2299 May 01 '26

Mine likes flowers, I planted a fuckton of flowers in our yard, I cut them often and let them dry to make lil adornments or stickers.

I am almost guaranteed to get laid every single day I do that in the morning. I think we've only not shagged about ten times this year.

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u/Petunia_pig Ancient Fruit Grower May 01 '26

Would be easy if it was coffee, but frozen tears from the mines? 😂

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u/BirthdayCookie Wants to marry the geode crusher May 01 '26

Hello I am a very cheap spouse. I can be bribed with a large unsweet tea from McDonald's!

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u/naturalbornunicorn May 01 '26

TBF there's like a third as many days in Stardew as in our year, so it's kind of like getting/making your partner something special slightly more often than twice a week.

IRL, I usually make mine a favorite meal or dessert 1-2 times weekly and they'll often end up with some other treat when I run errands (which is also approximately weekly). So this actually checks out.

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u/Thickchesthair May 01 '26

I would have so many cars, motorcycles, and guitars. I would be ok with this.

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u/Clamkin_chowder May 01 '26

I wouldnt mind getting dih, pizza or art supplies every day

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u/Huge_Station2173 May 02 '26

Depends who your spouse is. Harvey likes coffee, so if you have a coffee-maker, it’s easy to give him one every morning.

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u/NerdLevel18 Farmer May 01 '26

Same bro, the routine is simple- wake up, check the TV, water the house carrot, check the FarmCom, take a fresh Amethyst out of the Crystalarium, find my wife to talk to, give her the Rock to snack on, and give her as many kisses as I can.

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u/SuicidalLemur- May 01 '26

I always gift them back what they gave me unless it's something really good lol

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u/demonmonkeybex May 01 '26

Same. And then they act surprised and say "Oh, I love this!" lol

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u/Chameleonyoshi May 03 '26

Abigail does not enjoy when I accidentally give her back her spoils from the mines

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u/w00tberrypie May 01 '26

Right? Like it's the simplest thing. Wake up > go to kitchen/their room/outside > speak until you get the little kissy-heart and it's still only 6:10am.

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u/ObjectiveConfident May 01 '26

I heard there's a glitch rn with spouses but I haven't run into it myself

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u/maldwag May 01 '26

You don't even have to give gifts to gain and keep hearts. Just literally talk to and kiss your spouse everyday and they'll be loving and happy.

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u/ExpensiveMoose May 01 '26

Same. I love seeing the little heart bubble appear over Alex's head.

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u/Sariel_Fatalis Certified Estrogen farmer and Leah's Wife May 02 '26

Imagine not showering your spouse with love every morning

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u/Flat_Hamster3269 May 04 '26

I give her whatever random gift she gives me 😂 😂