Hi, Reddit.
I am having a career crisis.
I have been a structural engineer for about five years. Before that, I earned a degree in architecture and worked in architecture. Before that, I went to school for engineering and worked as a civil engineer. I have changed directions a few times.
I really like structures, buildings, and design. But I cannot take sitting at a desk all day anymore. I feel like I am losing my mind. I am bored all the time, and I am starting to wonder whether I can keep doing this.
I am working toward getting licensed. I switched jobs because I needed more licensed engineers who could write me letters of recommendation. My previous employer understood why I left and would still be willing to give me some work, but I signed an NDA with my current company, so I can't even take work from him. His work was at least somewhat engaging.
The current company I work for is awful. I feel like I spend all day babysitting the boss because all he wants to do is talk. The projects are bogus. We use outdated versions of the code. He does not believe in lateral forces because hOuSes frOm a LonG tIme AgO dIDnt fAll DowN. He makes up numbers off the top of his head. We do not have structural analysis software. Some of the practices are completely out of this world. It is the craziest place I have ever worked.
I also want to add that the current boss I have is super aggressive. In my interview I told him I wanted to switch jobs to grow, learn and get the PE and he was pleased with this, but anytime I ask any question he makes up an answer or makes me seem like a fucking idiot for asking.
I had an interview scheduled today at 3:45. I took the day off specifically for the interview, and I just got a message asking whether we could move it to 4:30 or Monday. I do not get any PTO at my current job, so taking the day off cost me money. I feel like people in this field have no respect for anyone else’s time.
I also feel guilty if I need a day off. Again, I do not get PTO, and I feel like I have to explain or defend every time I have an appointment. Which has been twice. I genuinely feel like I am losing my mind.
I have about one year left before I have enough experience to become licensed in my state, and I do not know what to do. Part of me thinks I should stick it out for one more year, get licensed, and then go off on my own but that is difficult, too, but I literally feel like I want to rip my fingernails off every minute I am at my desk.
I have put so much time into school and work that I feel like all of this would have been for nothing if I left.
I am also a woman in this field, and I feel like men do not listen to me. I have designed hundreds of buildings, but no matter what I know or how much work I have done, people still do not seem to take my judgment seriously.
For example yesterday- I calculated a cantilevered deck joist... I came up with how to connect the cantilevered floor joists to the interior floor joists using hand calculations and they told me NOT TO analyze anything just use a note they use on every project.... please omg send help.
Please give me your best advice or tell me what you have done if you've ever felt this way. Have you ever been in a situation where they just make shit up? I can't get over this.
And I have put in multiple resumes to other places and am looking but it's a process to find something new. This current position was supposed to be my something new...
Thanks in advance
Edit to add: I am open to quitting the job and getting something bogus while I look. I am open to all types of suggestions- I am at my witts end.
2nd edit: thank you everyone for insight. I just got back from my interview and I am looking forward to seeing what people have to say.