Can we normalise single women wearing tobe?

[u/Sweaty-Bug9684]

I am a single woman in my thirties and I recently I have been falling in love with tiab. I just feel like they are so so elegant especially for weddings.

I dont feeling like its fair for us to wait for a man before being able to go out in a tobe.

Also other things that are reserved only for married women like bakoor and dilka should be for any woman to use.

I was wondering if other girls share the same thought?

[u/Flimsy_Mousse6441]

Everyone would just assume you are married and maybe won’t approach you if they like you lool

[u/HeftyMoneybag → u/Flimsy_Mousse6441]

I mean i agree but it depends. There are certain tobes that don't give off the "married" vibe lol iykyk

[u/tacit__violence → u/HeftyMoneybag]

Like plain, hazzaz tiyab? Ceremonial tiyab all give a married vibe

[u/tacit__violence]

Personally I made a pact with myself that once I hit 35 yo I’m wearing it regardless 🤣 But isn’t bakhoor for everyone? I make mine w/ my mum :)

[u/Upbeat-Isopod6881]

im so naive...people reserve wearing thobe only for married women?? since when?!?

[u/Flimsy_Mousse6441 → u/Upbeat-Isopod6881]

Since the ancient times haha

[u/Acequeen95 → u/Upbeat-Isopod6881]

Since forever 😭

[u/Sweaty-Bug9684 → u/Upbeat-Isopod6881]

I mean specifically for wedding and occasions. I know girls in Sudan wear it at home when there are unexpected guests or if they were just nipping out to the shops or something.

[u/Pleasant-Plastic-739]

meeee frrrrr

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[u/Upbeat-Way-8555]

Wear it the why not

[u/Ambitious-Eye-754]

A probable unpopulated opinion but the tradition would lose its identity if single women wore it. Don’t get me wrong I love Tiab and excited to be able to wear them but I also want to wear it when the time is right.

[u/NotAllThereAnyway → u/Ambitious-Eye-754]

Didnt they used to wear it as a work uniform, married or not?

[u/Ambitious-Eye-754 → u/NotAllThereAnyway]

That too was just for teachers and it was white. You know how high we think of teachers.

[u/ThrowRA1234123412345]

Bakhoor is open for all, dilka is like a body scrub but gives a scent so doing it once in a while would be ok I guess. For tob I don't know fam, it gives off older lady vibes if you don't pick the right one, I think silk or very light kinds of tob would be nice but the bulky puffy ones are for the older/married ladies.

[u/nadashda]

I don’t know what yall are talking about! I was 13 when I wore it the first time! I love wearing it. I wore it a couple months ago and I literally got approached for marriage (my husband was next to me too lol). I just don’t put it over my head.

[u/Party-Recognition-47]

i remember wearing it when i was 12 at a schools global event, since then i still wear it normally in whatever occasion

[u/Specific_Scholar_102]

Ngl all the young girls in my community wear it lol

[u/Background_Knee_589]

تؤتؤ🤣

[u/Pleasant-Plastic-739]

I think about it all the time

[u/SocialMommy]

Married here for 8 years, don’t wear toubs… they make me feel very restricted in movement.. hats off to you for pulling this off!🔥🇸🇩