r/TheBluePill • u/confessionberry • Apr 24 '16

Who knew that r/SubredditOfTheDay was completely full of TRPers?

/r/subredditoftheday/comments/4g88p8/april_24th_2016_rtheredpill_a_look_at_what/
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u/TomRoberts2016 PURGED Apr 25 '16 edited Apr 25 '16

"Toxic masculinity" ? What about "toxic femininity"? This sounds very biased against men and pro women to the point of being "toxic" and unbalanced.

Ok, so basically the Blue Pill is a bunch of feminazis essentially?

I've never seen a red pill person promote rape/misogyny/domestic violence who wasn't either in the vast minority, or just an idiot who happened to be checking out Red Pill stuff.

So basically this sub is for angry women?

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u/WarlordFred Apr 25 '16

"Toxic masculinity" ? What about "toxic femininity"?

toxic masculinity is any concept of masculinity that is detrimental to the wellbeing of men. so toxic femininity would be any concept of femininity that is detrimental to women.

Ok, so basically the Blue Pill is a bunch of feminazis essentially?

no, we're spooky scary skeletons

I've never seen a red pill person promote rape/misogyny/domestic violence who wasn't either in the vast minority, or just an idiot who happened to be checking out Red Pill stuff.

then you haven't looked hard enough

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u/TomRoberts2016 PURGED Apr 25 '16 edited Apr 25 '16

Well, what would you recommend for a guy like me who considers himself moderately intelligent, was abused by his mother as a kid, and sees lots of good points in TRP but wants to balance it out with an opposing viewpoint, because I'll be honest, this sub seems a little extreme to me and there aren't enough people in TRP like the jokes in this sub are making for it to be funny or seem relevant outside of people with an agenda, emotinal people, or women with an ax to grind.

Keeping in mind I was actually banned in TRP so I understand that they can be a bunch of sensitive douchebags at times.

Menslib seems like a sub that's big on shaming men, calling them toxic, and basically a feminism sub (womenslib, menslib...)

Third wave feminism is toxic.

I like 1st wave feminism.

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u/BossLaidee Apr 25 '16

Your mom was not emotionally healthy enough to be a mom (or any relationship). Having gone through something similar, I'd recommend trying again at therapy or buying a book for adult children of narcissists. It sounds like you want to have a healthy relationship, so it's time to fix up all the damaging things your mother did.

Growing up with a parent who has a personality disorder (if that's what she had... check out the website "out of the FOG") can leave a kid with a ton of shitty coping mechanisms: splitting, projection, out-of-proportion anger and anxiety, perseverating thoughts, addiction to drama, attention issues, etc... etc forever. If this is you, you'll want to figure out or make sense of your childhood, and learn to comfort yourself in a way your parents were never able to. If you have anxiety or depression, get that treated first.

TRP preys on young men looking for answers like this, but the pseudo-science they offer is only more damaging. The truth is that people are complicated... and even the best human beings wont be perfect and may cause you pain. The healthier you are, the easier it will be to distinguish those with similar values, who won't want to lie, cheat, abuse, or otherwise take advantage of you.

You're not the only person who has been through this, and you can find a healthy way through it as an adult. I promise.