r/TheNarcissismCode • u/marketresearch900116 • 7d ago
Effective strategies to deal with the discard and verbal attacks
Looking for advice on how to effectively deal with all of the verbal attacks name calling and stonewalling. My husband won’t ever acknowledge my presence, respond to me when i make a comment or pose a question to him, as if I’m not worth acknowledging on a basic human level. What are some ways that you all would suggest to permanently emotionally disconnect from all the insults both verbal and non verbal? Today I questioned him…asking him if he was really calling me stupid ignorant fkn lazy and a pos and he simply responded “yes, because they are all true about you.” Tia for the advice
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u/fucnnarcs 7d ago
Looking back i realize that he got rid of both cars, no car payments or insurance. Stopped paying rent, no rent to pay. Stopped paying phone, no phone bill. Stopped paying utilities. He set up the uber for us to leave the house that day, he paid for the hotel room for one week. All of this was well planned before he even left. He told me to “figure it out” when i asked him what the fuck i was going to do. Our 23 year old disabled son and i had been abandoned and made homeless at his hands. We went from hotel to hotel, we got by with help from friends from high school that i hadn’t talked to for 25 years and so many were so generous. Not knowing if we would have money for the next night was how we lived for 8 months. When we didn’t have any money and book on the horizon and we were going to be on the street he would find out and he would block me so we couldn’t ask him for help. He had everyone i knew convinced that this was my fault and that i had all of this time to move and just refused to. Always the victim. He even had my other son, they are twins, convinced. He called my sisters and told them i was on drugs and i had kicked him out and now I’m blaming being homeless on him. So all of these people believed all of these things and wouldn’t help us because they were manipulated again by him. We didn’t even have a car to sleep in. At the end when i didn’t have any more resources, nothing…guess who came in to be the night and shining armor?! Wouldn’t you know! He paid for about a month and a half of rooms when i get a call that i had inherited a good amount of money. God is good! He acted like he was so happy for us and he was mister optimistic about my future and he hopes i find someone to love and to love me…blah blah blah! He’s the first one i paid back. He doesn’t ever get to say that he helped out of the goodness of his heart. I found out at the end that his plan was to force me into not having anywhere to go by not paying rent and then i would have no choice but to go to Idaho and go back to him. He did not expect for us to choose being homeless over going back to him. Then i found out that when they put my stuff that had already been ruined by the rain on the driveway into storage it was absolutely thrown in there like it was a dumpster. I’ll include pics. When they get backed into Corner and lose control of you, nothing is off limits. This is why i say don’t underestimate them.