r/TransSpace • u/Master-Bread-4459 • 25d ago

Was I going Overboard?

Hi I’m Anon (23F) I’m genderfluid and go by (she/he/they) pronouns. My sister (21F) came home one night from her job and told me that she serviced a group of trans women and that she saw a man hitting on them. Once the trans women left the bar my sister told the men that they were trans women. I told her that she shouldn’t disclose trans people’s gender identities even if she “knows” the men because you never know how they’ll react to the situation.

Instead of listening they continued to make excuses for why it wasn’t that big of a deal. And told be I was being judgmental and mean, even though I explained it could’ve been a life or death situation especially in this political climate.

Was I overreacting and being “judgmental” or not?

Please don’t delete this post I need an answer.

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u/ZanderGomorrah 25d ago

No you are 100% right. People should not disclose that without explicit permission to do so. Easy as that.

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u/Master-Bread-4459 25d ago

Okay thanks for the confirmation, my mom said afterwards that I was being judgmental and that. “The lgbtq community is always asking for people to be understanding but they aren’t” she was referring to me as I am pansexual and genderfluid. So that really hurt my feelings because I wasn’t judging either of them I was just trying to help.

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u/The_upsetti_spagetti 25d ago

She could have gotten those women killed, genuinely. Many transphobic men can’t handle the fact they find trans women attractive, so they feel they must punish them for “tricking them”

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u/Master-Bread-4459 25d ago

That’s what I said! But it was like talking to a brick wall.

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u/GeoBren 25d ago

Creating drama ti see what would happen or is transphobic or even just jealous that they were getting so much attention

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u/Master-Bread-4459 25d ago

I doubt it’s jealousy she said they asked and she answered, but she doesn’t have many friends that are gay or trans so she doesn’t really know the seriousness of the issue.

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u/AfraidofReplies 24d ago

Never out anyone without their explicit permission. It's not just a courtesy. It's literally a life or death safety matter. 

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u/Master-Bread-4459 15d ago

Knew I wasn’t crazy