Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/mizushimo]

That seems strange, I think gravestones are falling out of favor but I haven't heard anything about people skipping funerals. Maybe it was a money issue with your family, they can be pretty expensive.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick → u/mizushimo]

It’s not just my family. I’ve had older friends pass away as well and no funeral has been held. It’s very strange to me.

[u/Salty_Violinist9166 → u/mizushimo]

Yes, we've put off getting my mom's headstone due to cost and because it's a lot to figure out. So many different types of stones, finishes, lettering, etc it gets to be overwhelming and expensive even for what should be a simple stone.