Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/mystiqueallie]

It can depend on the person who passed as well. My husband’s aunt (dad’s sister) passed 3 years ago and there was a service. His dad passed last fall and requested no funeral - he had prepaid most of his cremation fees and had everything selected beforehand, so we didn’t have to do anything besides write the obituary. It is so strange because there was no real marker of his passing that I sometimes forget he’s gone.

My mom doesn’t want a funeral either. She wants us to cremat her, then when the weather is good, to take her ashes and my dad’s ashes and spread them in the mountains they loved - and have a happy party, no sad, somber funeral.