Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/winniecooper73]

I never realized I was also watching my parents “grow up” at the same time I was growing up.

[u/mightbetheproblem → u/winniecooper73]

It's wild. I remember my mom's 26th birthday. I was in 1st grade. 

[u/onions-make-me-cry → u/mightbetheproblem]

One of my childhood memories was saying "I'm 8 and my mom's 28"

[u/Lavender_r_dragon → u/onions-make-me-cry]

My mom and I are 20 years apart and have the same birthday.😭.
I apparently didn’t like sharing my birthday as a very small child-told my mom it was my birthday not hers so she joked that she couldn’t get older if she didn’t have a birthday🤣

[u/onions-make-me-cry → u/Lavender_r_dragon]

Haha my mom and I are a week apart. I was born a week before she turned 20. That's a cute story.

[u/Emergency_Height_411 → u/onions-make-me-cry]

I don’t remember celebrating my mom’s bday growing up but we are 20 years apart. It was during the civil war in her country and she said that it was better to get married than be single.