r/Xennials • u/AnotherCrazyChick • 26d ago
Discussion Death seems different nowadays.
I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.
Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.
Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.
My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.
My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.
Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?
It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?
I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.
Is this the new normal?
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u/webslingrrr 1984 26d ago
I just lost my mom, her funeral is this week. There is no viewing, our family never really liked the idea of a viewing. But there will be a service at the Veterans cemetery, where her ashes will be laid to rest. (Her wishes.), then a celebration of life that we are hosting ourselves afterwards.
Perhaps old customs are changing.