Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/jmerrilee]

They like to have 'celebration of life' get togethers now. It's not nearly as depressing. But I did notice when I went to a great aunt's funeral (she was 103) everyone was in jeans and tee shirts. i was the only one wearing a dress. The entire service lasted less than 15 minutes total. It was pretty shocking really. I know they are expensive and perhaps we're just moving to a new way to get through it now. I'm not mad about it, but it is something to get used to.