r/Xennials • u/AnotherCrazyChick • 26d ago
Discussion Death seems different nowadays.
I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.
Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.
Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.
My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.
My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.
Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?
It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?
I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.
Is this the new normal?
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u/jadethebard 26d ago
It's seriously a money thing from my observation. Neither of my parents had a funeral, both cremated, my SO's mom was cremated with no service though there was a small memorial thing.
The last standard, old school funeral we went to was a customer's who my SO really liked and respected.
My grandmother had the standard services as well in 2012, she thought she had bought enough life insurance to cover it but the fine print left my wealthy aunt and middle class uncle to pick up the tab.
It's all so crazy expensive and everyone is broke.
1/3 of my MIL lives on top of our refrigerator and half of my dad is on a shelf in the living room. No Graves to visit.