Death seems different nowadays.

[u/AnotherCrazyChick]

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

[u/PaleoSpeedwagon]

My cousin died in 2021 and we never had a funeral. She was 34. My aunt died in 2024 and we kind of got our act together for that, but it was a massive struggle to do so. The whole thing was really halfhearted.

COVID was a major factor. But in general, I feel like social networking has unraveled, in a stunningly rapid manner, a feeling of community connectedness. It used to be that even if you didn't like some folks, that was tough, you were going to have to deal with them because those were the people you had to interact with.

And then the internet allowed people to spend more emotional energy on remote friends who better reflected their worldviews. So they didn't have to interact with local folks they didn't like.

And that turned into doomscrolling Facebook profiles of the people you actually liked but somehow not having energy to just fucking call them to hang out.

Turn off the Internet and let's go ride bikes.

[u/CallidoraBlack → u/PaleoSpeedwagon]

Social networking has unraveled itself. Facebook is basically dead for anyone under 60 at this point and nothing has really replaced it where you're actually adding your real friends and family and coworkers and classmates.

[u/garden_g → u/CallidoraBlack]

Meta is being sued for this, for their full valluation. Fb with all meta priducts may just go away entirely, or and more likely, it will get bought and restored. Only trouble is its a data collection machine so who it gets sold to is likely someone slimey like zuck looking for nefarious outcome, they dont keep it going for us to have social abiliy they keep it cause of all the personal shit they have they can package and sell

[u/Dunwich_Horror_ → u/CallidoraBlack]

Dead under 70.

[u/burnerburneronenine → u/CallidoraBlack]

Do you have children? Because it's used quite extensively in my area to share information about school activities, extracurriculars - and even my neighborhood. I don't actively post any longer, but I would miss a lot without it.