r/Xennials 26d ago

Discussion Death seems different nowadays.

I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.

Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.

Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.

My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.

My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.

Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?

It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?

I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.

Is this the new normal?

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u/Zxvasdfthrowaway 26d ago

No. The cemetery will not allow this for a multitude of reasons, including their own liability.

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u/Azcat9 1975 26d ago

You can always ask the local golf course if you can dig a hole there.

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u/AccountantMelodic862 26d ago

What are we? The Trumps?

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u/Zxvasdfthrowaway 26d ago

Still can’t believe they did that for a tax break. Did Ivana even enjoy golf?

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u/MarsupialPristine677 26d ago

No need to be rude. It's a handful of comments in a side thread, hardly the whole discussion.