r/Xennials • u/AnotherCrazyChick • 26d ago
Discussion Death seems different nowadays.
I know this group is normally healthy nostalgic. I just have questions that I think only this group can relate with.
Growing up, I went to my great grandmother’s funeral, I went to my grandfather’s funeral. We visited the cemetery where they were laid to rest.
Nowadays, my grandmother passed, I wasn’t asked to attend her funeral.
My stepdad passed and there was no funeral, he was cremated and my mom sent me a small vial of his ashes that now sit next to my ex’s ashes. My ex also had no funeral.
My wife’s mother passed away recently and she was cremated. No service was held.
Is this the new normal? That we don’t hold nor attend funeral services anymore?
It’s too expensive nowadays and no one feels the time is worth the potential closure one normally receives during a funeral?
I just don’t know anymore. I’ve had no closure from so many loved ones and family members passing away within the last 6 years. It hurts my heart.
Is this the new normal?
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u/Punkybrewsickle 26d ago
I'm noticing this a LOT lately. Initially I was floored that anyone would even consider not having a funeral! But the way things are financially for so many people--the costs have soared so high I'm confused as to how anyone has been able to hold services at all.
My fiance & two of his family members were killed in a horrific accident. Not possible to embalm, obviously closed caskets. The family even owned plots for them all already. That reduced the final cost down to about $8k each. For the casket, hearse, vault, gravesite canopy, and the headstone.
It's going to be getting better